Stephen is at the forefront of mind-opening new directions in leadership. For the past 25 years, he has guided business executives and influential leaders across the globe, to go beyond self-imposed limitations to new levels of leadership.
An international keynote speaker and author of three books on leadership, Stephen has transformed accomplished individuals around the country and initiated cultural change with major corporations such as Microsoft, Merck, Georgia Pacific and Firestone.
He recently completed his first film, Climb For Freedom, a documentary about the transformation of seven men summiting one of the world’s highest peaks and the profound impact of that journey on their lives and relationships.
“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience.” ~Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
1. Learn to See Problems as Opportunities
One of the most valuable skills that you can cultivate as a man and a leader is to control your perspective.
Look at everything in life as a spiritual experience that happens to you for a reason. This will allow you to see things that others would perceive as problems and you will be able to ask “What is the blessing?” “What is the lesson?”
This is easier said than done, but if you can shift your paradigm when the shit hits the fan, you will change your life in a radical way.
2. It is not the End
No matter what difficulty you are facing, whether a divorce, a bankruptcy, a loss of a loved one or any other tragic occurence, know that this is not the end.
It is simply the beginning of something new, you will survive and you will make it through, hold on.
3. Leadership is About Asking Questions
If you want to be a good leader, get really good at asking questions. That is what leadership boils down to is the art of being able to ask questions that bring about the best answers from those following you.
If you can become a master at asking the right question you will be a stronger leader than you ever imagined.
4. All Extrinsic Rewards come from Intrinsic Work
If you want more money, a beautiful wife, a million dollar business, a great body, or anything else, it all stems from internal work.
You have to put the work in on yourself and mold yourself into the person that you need to be before you can achieve the goals that you want to achieve.
5. Own Your Life and Change it
Quit whining, quit complaining, quit blaming others. End the victim mentality.
You are responsible for where you are in life, you and no one else. If you keep playing the blame game you will never be able to break free and live the life of your dreams. Only when you take 100% responsibility for your life are you able to take your life wherever you want it.
Drew Canole is a rockstar in the world of fitness, nutrition and mindset, with a huge heart for others and doing his part to transform the world, one person at a time.
As the founder and CEO of Fitlife.tv, he is committed to sharing educational, inspirational and entertaining videos and articles about health, fitness, healing and longevity.
“Remind yourself to check in with your thoughts”
1. Choose to Control Your Subconscious Mind
A mistake that many individuals make on their path to success is that they fail to realize the importance of the subconscious mind on their path to success. If you want to succeed in the world, you have to accept the power of your mind and learn how to harness it to help you achieve your goals and live a life of meaning purpose, and happiness.
2. Your Body and Your Spirit are Inseparably Related
The Bible says that your body is a temple, and this is true. It is the temple of your soul, and if you are not taking care of your body, your mind and your spirit cannot flourish to their fullest.
You have to cleanse your body, treat it like the vessel that it is and ensure that you are properly fueling, training, and repairing it if you want to live the life of your dreams.
All the money in the world, all the beautiful women in the world, and all the fame is useless if your body is too weak to enjoy those things.
3. Aim for Deep Impact Not Wide
In this social media generation, where success is measured in how many Facebook likes we have, we need to rewire our thoughts around success to focus on depth not width.
What this means is that instead of reaching 100,000 people who don’t take action and who don’t change their lives based off of what you say, just try and radically change the life of 1 person. While this is not sexy, it is the path to truly making a difference and you must shift your focus if you wish to achieve true impact.
4. Live in the Now
All that we have is the now, the more you live in the past or the future, the more stressed and anxious you become as you build up these lofty goals that you have no clue how to achieve. Instead of living in the future or the past, simply live in the now, focus on this moment and all that you have to be grateful for, do not worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will worry about itself!
If you can learn to live in the now you will achieve a success and a power in your life that you had never dreamed of before.
Christian McQueen is a men’s dating coach, blogger, entrepreneur, author and the founder of SelfFlix.com, The Netflix of Self-Improvement, an online self-improvement video course subscription site that streams step-by-step courses ranging from making money online to dating and social skills.
“Failure is not an option”.
1. Take Responsibility for Your Own Damn Life
We live in a day and age where people live live’s that they claim no responsibility.
They sit at home in front of their television, stuffing their face with processed shit, and never getting out to meet people and socialize and then they blame the government that they’re broke, big medicine that they’re fat, the high school bully who called them a name 15 years ago for the fact that they are alone and depressed in life.
Wake up, men!
No one is responsible for you except for you. Take responsibility for your own life, because if you don’t you can never change your life.
2. Watch Out for Red Flags
While you can be great with women at bars and clubs, being a good man and being good in relationships is a whole different ball game.
One of the biggest mistakes that most novices make when it comes to the relationship “game” is that they ignore red flags because the girls are hot or they’re having a lot of fun.
Be sure to watch out for girls who are clingy, on any kind of prescription meds, angry and inconsistent in any way.
If you want to learn a little bit more about this, check out Christian’s monster 10,000 + word post here
3. Stop Apologizing
Guys, we get it…
School, the government, and your parents raised you to be a polite little gentleman who always says please and thank you. That’s great!
But you know what’s not great?
The innumerable amount of men who have become pussified shells of the confident, assertive alpha males that once roamed the earth.
And while this problem goes much deeper than anyone issues and is tied to everything from the decline of the family structure, hormonal imbalance, to feminism, one of the easiest things you can do to start getting back on track is to stop apologizing.
We aren’t saying that if you run over someone’s dog you shouldn’t apologize, but men, when you are in a grocery store, and someone else runs into you because they were on their damn phone do NOT apologize for it. Don’t apologize because you are in someone’s way (guess what they are in your way too), don’t apologize unless you really need to.
4. Success with Finances and Women Are Paramount
There are truly two goals in a man’s life:
Get laid and get paid.
How those goals appear for you are quite frankly irrelevant. Whether you want to find that beautiful woman and settle down to a monogamous relationship and comfortable 9-5, or you want to be the next Casanova, traveling the world and bedding all sorts of exotic girls, is completely irrelevant.
You need to spend your early years learning how to meet and attract women, and how to make money. If you can master these two areas of your life, you will have the freedom and the peace of mind to pursue other things and go after your “passion.”
Because here’s the thing. Going after your passion is great, starting a family is great, and doing those things is a helluva lot easier with $250,000 saved in your account and a beautiful dime by your side who is loyal and loving.
5. Your Mission is Your Priority Not Women
Women are wonderful, we all love them and all straight men do most of the things that they do in order to attract the women that they desire. But the thing is, if you are reading this blog, odds are, you have a fire inside of you, you have a calling and a passion that is bigger than yourself, and importantly, bigger than any woman.
Men, you can never make a woman your whole priority in life, a priority, absolutely. The priority, no.
If you are in a long term relationship or marriage, then obviously it is your responsibility to be there for her, to love, her and provide for her, but your mission in life has to come first and she needs to understand that this is the case, and it doesn’t mean that you don’t love her, it simply means that you have a calling inside of you that cannot be limited to one single relationship.
So go after your mission men, and don’t hold back.
Sarah Jones is an online entrepreneur and dating coach for men who helps introverted men unleash the power inside of them to attract and date the beautiful women that they desire by expressing themselves openly and authentically, and avoiding the gimmicks of the PUA community.
“Enjoy the hell out of being you”
1. Love Being You
The first step that is essential to becoming a powerful man who can authentically relate with and attract the women he desires is simply to love being you.
Love who you are!
Love your weirdness, your quirky traits, your dreams and goals, your hobbies, your flaws, and your strengths.
Many people suggest that loving yourself often causes people to steer away from personal development, but the opposite is actually true. If you genuinely love yourself and love who you are, what is the more loving thing to do?
To allow yourself to live a mediocre life held back by fear and doubt?
Or to break free and step into the life that you know you can achieve?
2. You Have to Live by Your Values to Truly Attract Women
One of the reasons that many shy guys fail with women whenever attempting “pick up” is that the techniques and tactics taught in the pickup community, even among those who encourage you to be authentic and genuinely relate, are often out of line with the values that you may hold being an introverted male.
If you value genuine conversation and connection and are then told that you have to go to loud bars and clubs start dry humping on the dance floor to attract girls, you will feel disingenuous and it will come across in your interactions.
3. Break the Touch Barrier Quickly
One of the ways that many introverts fail with women is that they are quickly “friend zoned” because they have a difficult time breaking the touch barrier. A woman will never see you in a sexual light if you are not able to comfortable touch her in a respectful way (and quickly)
This does not mean you have to be groping and grab assing, it simply means that being able to initiate a playful touch on the arm or shoulder, or placing your hand on her knee to emphasize a segment of a story you are telling, will go a long way in having her see you as a potential boyfriend and a not a potential friend to cry to when her boyfriend turns out to be an asshole.
4. Your Inner World will be Reflected In Your Approaches
Women have a sixth sense when it comes to how you are showing up in the world. If you are inwardly feeling unconfident, very unsure of yourself, and unworthy of the girl you are trying to spark attraction with. it will come across and she will be able to tell almost immediately.
You have to first develop the inner confidence and put yourself in situations where you can be yourself (for example if you love music, go join a music meet up instead of trying to force going out to night clubs and bars), and then you will be able to meet and attract women easily and naturally.
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We live in a world caught between two extremes. In one breath, we eschew and vilify masculinity and traditionally “manly” virtues, labeling them as “toxic” and detrimental to society. Yet in another, we revel in them. Subconsciously pining for a resurgence in traditional masculinity.
We are enamored with the classically masculine archetypes that proliferate our favorite movies, books, and TV shows (think Jon Snow, Don Draper, Hank Moody, and Captain America).
The blood in our veins rips at the sight of a vicious knockout in the UFC and, as we watch the victor leap to the top of the cage with his arms held high in the air, we can’t help but imagine ourselves standing in his place…the taste of blood on our lips, the deafening roar of the crowd filling our ears, and the inner confidence of knowing that we are capable of handling ourselves in conflict.
Yet all of our imagining does little to change the way we feel and show up in life.
Despite our desire to “be the man”, to feel strong, accomplished, and powerful…our desires are left unmet. We are not the hero of our lives so we allay our growing sense of emasculation by watching other hero’s through a steady stream of action movies, video games, and extreme sports.
The reason is simple…
Men today are lost. In the famous words of Bob Dylan, “The times, they are a-changing.” And modern men have failed to evolve with the changing times.
As feminism has given rise to unprecedented equality men are faced with a growing and inescapable sense of obsolescence.
Men aren’t needed in the way that we once were and, our seeming lack of utility has left men wondering, “What the hell am I supposed to do now?” We no longer have clear roles in society and men all over the world want to know how to be more masculine and even if it’s okay.
And today, I'm going to give you the answers you've been looking for.
Dale Partridge is a social entrepreneur and founder of Sevenly.org and StartupCamp.com. Described as “a mind who feels the trends before market,” Partridge teaches leaders and organizations how to position their brand, love their people, and develop profitable corporate social responsibility programs.
He’s a renowned expert on branding, consumer psychology, and marketplace trends. He is an avid speaker and has been featured in various business publications including the cover of Entrepreneur Magazine, Fox News, NBC, INC Magazine, Mashable, MSN Money, Forbes and the Los Angeles Times. Dale resides with his family in Bend, Oregon.
“Never get too busy making a living that you forget to make a life”~Dolly Parton
1. Accountability is Key
On your path to becoming the best man that you can be, there are a couple of key ingredients that, if you are lacking, will cause you to fail miserably.
One of those keys is accountability.
You have to have strong men in your life who are willing to speak truth and push you to become your best self. Men who are willing to call you out on your weaknesses and affirm your strengths. Without a strong support system you will fail. It is essential to your success as a man, in business, marriage, and personal growth that you develop this accountability and stick to it.
2. Men Are Overly Courageous in Business and Fearful in Family
A huge problem with men today is that they are courageous in business and timid in their family lives.
They draw all of this satisfaction from succeeding on the front of business, making millions and achieving their dreams, that they forget to be good fathers, husbands, and sons.
If you want to live up to your full potential as a man, you have to have a balance between both. You have to succeed in business so that you can provide for your family, but you also have to be willing to sacrifice a bigger paycheck to be the man that your family needs.
3. Build Generosity into Your Life
One of the cornerstones of being a good man is being generous. If you want to live a life of purpose and fulfillment, build generosity into your life, don’t sprinkle it in as an afterthought.
Give your time, money, and resources to charities that you believe in, be willing to listen to the homeless guy on the street, sit and have a conversation with someone in need. Be generous in all areas of your life and it will come back to you, but more importantly, at the end of the day when you meet your maker, you will have a clean conscience and a full heart.
Dr. Roberto Canessa., is one of the 16 survivors of the Uruguayan Air Force Flight 571, which crashed in the Andes mountains on October 13, 1972
“Don’t wait for the helicopters to rescue you”
1. You Have to Rescue Yourself
In life, no one is coming to save you, there are no helicopters on the way, you have to rescue yourself.
In business, there is no one coming with that promotion you aren’t willing to work and ask for, in relationships, there are no beautiful women waiting in line to marry you while you play video games and live a mundane life, there is no magic pill to make you the best version of yourself, you have to choose to be the best, and fight for it every day.
You have to rescue yourself.
2. Know there is Hope
No matter how bleak things look right now, know that there is hope, there is always something better waiting for you if you are willing to have patience and put in the work. No matter how hard it is, no matter how much you want to give up, stay strong and have hope.
3. Take it One Step at a Time
If you want to succeed at anything, just take it one step at a time. Don’t think about the massive journey ahead of you, just think about the natural next step, think about the one thing that you need to do today.
If you can have laser focus on the next thing you need to accomplish your success in life and business will skyrocket.
4. Don’t Wait for the Plane to Crash
Life is beautiful and we have so much to be grateful for. Don’t wait for your plane to crash to realize that. Spend time every day in thanks, thinking about the people, things, and experiences you love.
Just be grateful and allow the world to spin in its own way without worrying about it.
A nationally known writer, speaker, and publisher in alternative spirituality, MITCH HOROWITZ is the author of “One Simple Idea: How Positive Thinking Reshaped Modern Life” and “Occult America,” winner of the 2010 PEN Oakland/ Josephine Miles Award for literary excellence. He is vice-president and editor-in-chief at Tarcher/Penguin, the division of Penguin books dedicated to metaphysical literature.
1. Just Persist
If you are struggling in life be it in your finances, relationships, or sense of meaning in life, just persist. Nothing good ever comes from people who can give up.
You have to be willing to take the hits and keep on moving, to put in the work whenever everyone else parties, to put your nose to the grindstone while others sleep. If you can persist and keep going, success will come, it may take years, but if you put in the work and push through the hard times, you will succeed in the end.
2. Don’t Ask How, Just Why
If you have to ask “how” odds are that you don’t really want to do something. If you came across a wild bear and had to get away, you wouldn’t ask how to get out of the way, you would just do it! And the same is true of success.
If you really want to do something and have a strong why, then you will be able to figure out the how no matter what.
3. You Have Nothing But Your Word
We have all heard that a man has nothing but his word. And as cliche as it may sound, this is true.
You have nothing but your word. If you cannot be trusted, if you have no integrity with others and yourself, then what do you really have to offer the world?
You have to be a man of your word, take your word and your integrity more seriously than you take your job, your relationships, your passions or anything because your word is the only measure of a man.
Chris Duffin is an accomplished power lifter, coach and gym owner, he holds the world record for the raw squat in the 220 lb weight class and holds a Guinness World Record for the most weight deadlifted in 1 minute with 42 reps at 405 lbs. He is the head coach and co owner at the Elite Performance Center.
Reject complacency like it’s a poison, chase your vision like its your last breath, this is your path to achieving greatness”
1. Reject Complacency and Live in Fear
If you are not growing then you are dying. If you are a driven man who wants to achieve great things in your life and you take the action necessary to achieve those things, then odds are, you will come to a point in your life where you are comfortable. You will have made your millions, become successful with women, possibly having the dream wife, the big house, and the passive income business. But this is when life becomes most dangerous.
Life is unpredictable and volatile. Once you achieve success you are at your most vulnerable because this is when you feel that you have permission to stop growing and pushing yourself. This is something that you must root out of your life like a cancer. You have to constantly grow, reject complacency, and live in fear. Live in fear because you are doing things that you don’t know you will be able to achieve, things that are making you better and making you stronger.
2. Success Builds Trust
If you want people to trust you, show them results. If you have a proven track record behind your name, then people will naturally support you when you start to take on more and more challenging tasks and activities. How can you expect your family to trust you in starting and growing a new business when you haven’t even achieved success in your current job? How can you expect business partners and investors to trust you when you have no proof of your abilities.
Do what it takes to become successful and later, whenever you are making bigger and bigger leaps, you will already have the trust of the important people in your life.
3. Prioritize Your Life
The age old excuse that you don’t have time for something is just a big lie you keep telling yourself. You have time for whatever you prioritize, and if you do not prioritize business, health or relationships, then they will suffer, there’s no way around it.
If you want to achieve greatness then you have to prioritize it.
This is David’s second appearance on the show, he’s back and better than before.
For those of you who are not familiar with David Wygant, he is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship coach, author and speaker. Through his boot camps, personal coaching and his website, his advice has transformed the dating lives and relationships of hundreds of thousands of people from every corner of the globe. His funny — yet always direct — approach to dating, sex and relationships has revolutionized how people meet and interact with the opposite sex.
Over the last thirteen years, David has become one of the most frequently-quoted dating experts in the media. He offers his advice as a lead writer for Yahoo! Personals, AskMen, Huffington Post and across television segments, newspapers and magazines, including MTV, The New York Times, MSNBC, Fox News, Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health and E! Entertainment Television — as well as on over 2,000 radio shows.
1. Get Off Social Media and CONNECT
People have lost their ability to connect. We spend our days on social media, constantly swiping and liking our lives away while the real juice of life passes us by.
If you want to live a life that is full, full of love, passion, and joy, you have to put down the phone and learn to connect with people, get excited about who you will meet and what you will learn each day and turn your damn phone off!
No man will ever go to his grave regretting that he didn’t have enough facebook followers, but many men die void of true love and connection because they were never willing to put down their devices and connect.
2. You Are Good Enough
Society, our family, and our friends have sold us a lie that we are not good enough. We have been taught that because we are not like someone else that we are somehow inferior and less worthy of love and success than others.
This is bullshit.
You are who you are for a reason, embrace it! If you are a nerd, be a nerd, a gym rat, then be a gym rat, if you are a hopeless romantic, then fucking embrace it and be who you are!
Don’t let anyone or anything tell you that you are not good enough.
3. Give Love Freely
All that matters in life is our ability to love. If you want to be happy and fulfilled, then give love freely. Love other people, love the world you live in, love your family, your friends, and don’t expect anything in return.
As soon as you do this, the universe will open up doors and your life will be a roller coaster ride of joy, love, and connection.
4. Be Totally Present
Stop worrying about tomorrow. Quit spending your precious time focused on things that don’t matter. Unplug and learn to love, to be totally present and there with everyone you meet.
Life is too short to live in the future. Give love and presence and your life will be more joyful and amazing than you can imagine.
Craig Filek is a father, a depth coach and highly attuned facilitator bringing over 20 years of experience in transformative men’s work, shadow work and authentic relating to his unique process for radically clarifying your purpose, making a powerful contribution, and stepping into your flow
“In every adversity lies the seed in an equivalent or greater benefit”~Napoleon Hill
1. Learn to Be With Yourself
Part of becoming the man that you were born to be is to discover who you are and to learn to be ok with your shadow, unafraid and bold in accepting who you are.
To achieve this level of self knowledge and acceptance, you have to be willing to spend time in solitude truly delving into yourself and allowing yourself the space to grow.
Whether this is through meditation, time in nature or journaling doesn’t matter. What matters is that you make time for yourself to be alone with yourself and truly come to know and accept who you are.
2. You Have to Have a Rite of Passage to Become the Best Man You Can Be
To truly thrive as a man, you must, even according to your own biology, go through a rite of passage that challenges you and leaves you a better man than before.
Whether this is a retreat, solo trip around the world, starting a business, or competing in a boxing match, you need to have something that marks your transition into manhood and a new life, no matter how old or experienced you are.
3. Create a Life Map
A powerful exercise to help you unlock your potential and become the man you need to be is to create a life map. Include your overarching purpose for the next 6 years, milestones along the way to help keep you motivated and on track, a daily one thing to focus on, and a list of daily habits to help you become the man you were born to be.
No matter whether your purpose is to become the biggest name in personal growth, a pro musician, or simply to be the best damn father you can, breaking everything down in this way will help you to organize your life and goals in a simple way that you can easily follow and use to achieve your purpose.
As a professional speaker, Christine leads seminars and workshops to audiences around the country. She has spoken to over 100,000 people at colleges, personal growth events, conferences, and corporations.
Christine has appeared as an expert on The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style and PBS, as well as various local television and radio shows, speaking about life issues and “Expectation Hangovers®” – a phenomenon she identified and trademarked or generational diversity. She is also a frequent contributor to The Huffington Post and Cosmo.
She is the author of many books including the Expectation Hangover
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom” ~Victor Frankl
“Don’t ask why did this happen to me, ask what am I learning” ~ Christine Hassler
1. Become an Inside Out Person
So often, we get tied up in achieving success, in getting the girl, getting the six pack, and making the million dollars, that we tie all of our value and recieve all of our validation from the outside in.
This is completely backwards. If you want to be a happy fulfilled person who lives their lives with a sense of joy and completion, you have to first become a person who works from the inside out. You work on giving yourself to the world just as you are, because you know that you have everything inside of you that you need to feel complete and be loved.
You don’t need any external validation for happiness, you simply need to be who you are, and more importantly love who you are.
2. Get Over Your Insecurities
What many people do not realize is that whenever they wait to act until they are ready because they are insecure, it’s not themselves that they are robbing, they are robbing the world of their gifts as well.
Every second that you spend wallowing in insecurity is a second that is spent selfishly depriving the world of your gifts and talents, get over yourself and get over your insecurities, and just act!
3. Another Person Can Never Be Your Purpose
As men, we often times get tied up in women who we consider to be projects. We get all of our validation from fixing and saving them without realizing that what is really happening is that their brokenness is what we are using to try and save ourselves.
A relationship should be two whole people, holding hands and looking in the same direction. Two people who love themselves and love each other who have their own individual paths and purposes which are aligned.
Never allow someone else to become your purpose, because as soon as you do, you doom the relationship to failure.
Matt Inglot is the founder of Tilted Pixel, a high level web agency specializing in web design. He is also the founder of the website and podcast Freelance Transformation, where he details how he created a 6-figure lifestyle business doing work that he loves.
“Reality is negotiable”~ Tim Ferriss
1. Live a Life True to Yourself
It’s so easy in life today to live a life that is not true to who we are. We take a job that we don’t like to impress our friends and family, we get married to someone we do not truly love because everyone else loves her, we live in a way that is incongruent with who we are because we are too afraid to take the reigns of our own lives!
If you want to live a life that is full, not just full of financial success and fun, but a life full of joy, love, and peace, it starts with being true to yourself. Because only when you are true to yourself can you truly live a life that will inspire and empower others.
2. You Have to be Willing to Make Tough Decisions
You will often be faced with difficult decisions, you will usually have two options, to take the path of least resistance, the path you have been down before that is easy and comfortable, or to take the path of growth. The path that scares you and keeps you up at night, the path that will lead to the life of your dreams…after it leads you through pain and hardship.
If you want to live a full life and a life on your terms, you have to take the road less traveled, it will make all the difference.
3. Sometimes You Just Have to Jump
Sometimes, when you are making hard decisions, you just have to jump. You have to take an action in faith, believing that it will work out without any evidence to support your belief.
You just have to jump off the cliff and build your wings on the way down, once you do, you will find that all sorts of doors and opportunities open up…
But you have to take the jump first.
Phillip Adcock is a commercial psychologist and managing director of a number of human behavior analysis companies operating in 17 countries. He boasts some of the world’s largest organizations as clients, including Apple, Kraft, L’Oréal, Mars, PepsiCo, Nestlé, Tesco, and Procter & Gamble. He frequently appears on UK television. He lives in England.
“If the brain was so simple that we could understand it, we’d be so simple that we couldn’t”~ Ian Stewart
1. Your Brain is Wired to Fight, Flight, and Fu….Find a Mate
When you seek to understand your brain, you have to realize that it takes our brains nearly 30,000 years to evolve, and for the past 30,000 years of evolutionary history, our brains have been wired for three things, fighting, fleeing, and finding a mate.
Whenever you are presented with a new situation, your brain will filter it through these lenses, basically, should I fight this thing, run from it, or screw it.
Whenever you are in a new and scary business, life, or mating situation, your brain is not logical and you are working with wiring that evolved to help you survive on the plains of the Savanna, realize this and you will be able to perform at a much higher level.
2. It is Emotion That Makes Every Decision
People who think they have a real choice in making decisions, do not understand how the brain works. Your brain operates purely out of emotion, and on its simplest terms it operates to move your towards pleasure and away from pain.
If you can understand this, you can manipulate this to associate more pain and pleasure with certain things that will help you move away form what you want and towards what you do, even if it means loss of pleasure in the short term.
3. Use All of Your Senses to Get in State
If you want to get into state, simply use all of your senses.
Get in a room that inspires your sense of sight with colors that motivate you and images that fire you up, light a candle or something else that smells good and relaxes you and helps you think, stand on a certain type of floor that will help you to feel either more relaxed or more motivated, and finally put on some music that gets you into state.
4. Break the Script
If you want to break a habit, break the script. If you are a smoker, figure out when it is that you normally smoke and change something about that routine. Change the coffee that you are drinking, the way you drive to work, the gas station that you fill up at or anything else that will help you to change a routine normally associated with a habit.
5. Always be Learning
Plain and simple, if you are not learning, you are dying. You need to constantly expand your brain and expose it to new and exciting ideas to be growing into the man that you want to be.
Always be learning.
Dr. Tracy Thomas is a licensed psychologist and a certified coach who works with executives, leaders, and celebrities who helps them go from the life they are living the life that they are leading.
“It’s one thing to realize the self, but it’s something else altogether to truly embody that realization, to the extent that there is no gap between inner revelation and it’s outer expression” Adayashanti
1. Turn Your Existence into Your Career
You know the old saying that if you love what you do you will never work a day in your life?
Well imagine if the work that you did was in such alignment with who you are as a person and what you value in life that you felt that you were being paid simply to exist? That you were paid to just be you!
It is entirely possible, and more than that, entirely necessary.
Life is too damn short to live a life that is incongruent with who you are. If you are doing things that you love with people you love, you will wake up every day with a smile on your face and a spring in your step. You will have a deep sense of fulfillment and joy in each moment and will be able to show up in life more present and on purpose than you ever thought possible.
It is not an easy road, and it will require you to make changes, but it will be worth it.
2. Get out of the Negative Narratives in Your Life
It is so easy to get caught up in negative narratives in your day to day life that you may not even realize how much they are affecting you. You are in negative work environments, negative relationships, patterns of self talk, or ways of being that your health and well being is affected.
If you are able to remove the negative narratives from your life and surround yourself with positivity that is congruent with you and your mission, your life will improve, your health will improve, and your sense of peace and joy will shoot through the roof.
3. Get Real with Yourself
Success in life requires that you are honest with yourself, you cannot live a life of joy and peace if you are constantly lying to yourself.
You tell yourself that it is not that bad, that you will make a change, that things are worse for others without ever realizing that by lying to yourself you are blocking yourself from achieving the things you desire.
You have to be brutally honest with yourself and call it like it is in life before you can truly live a congruent and passionate life.
4. Take it Easy on Yourself
Especially as a man, it is easy to beat yourself up. Society puts so much pressure on you to achieve, to succeed, to figure out who the hell you are (not to mention to figure out how the hell to handle women) that it’s easy to see yourself as a failure if you are not a millionaire, casanova by age 21!
Take a deep breath and take it easy on yourself, you are doing better than you think you are. You don’t have a responsibility to conform to society’s expectations and the sooner you can realize this, the happier and more fulfilled you will be.
Steven DeSalvo’s first book ‘Relationship Dynamics’ in the EVOLVE series helps to answer the question: ‘How can we change our world and the course of human evolution with positive outcomes for this planet and all of its inhabitants? This first book in this series has helped many to change and navigate to healthier relationship dynamics.
As a certified Permaculturist, his goal is to serve others in the attaining their highest evolutionary potential through writings and personal appearances to increase awareness and personal responsibility.
He moved to northern California in 2011 where he now resides and works as an independent writer, publisher, speaker and life coach. Often called a Renaissance man, Steven DeSalvo has a diverse background of creative, artistic, business and personal interests including writing and blogging on his web site www.BecomeAnAdult.com.
“Live your true authentic self”~Steven DeSalvo
1. Introspection is the First Step to Better Relationships
You will never succeed in relationships with others until you are in a great relationship with yourself. And creating a great relationship with yourself requires that you spend time in introspection, truly learning who you are and falling deeply in love with yourself.
If you want to develop healthy relationships with others, start by spending time by yourself and investing in the man that you want to be, the rest will follow.
2. You Have to Create Systems for Conflict Resolution
In all relationships, no matter how “perfect” they may seem, you will face conflicts. It is inevitable. But what separates relationships that last from those that crash and burn is. There is such a thing as an elegant argument, but you have to be willing to let go of your need to be right.
Put yourself in your partner’s shoes, truly listen to them and what they are saying, not just the words that are coming out of their mouths, but the underlying message behind everything that they say. If you do this, your relationships will be happier, you will be happier, and life will be far more fulfilling.
3. A Healthy Relationship is Two People Setting Each Other Free
A healthy relationship is two people setting each other free, it is not one person completing another person, or one individual trying to fix another individual, it is two whole individuals who both have something unique to offer each other, coming together and sharing their gifts, talents, and love with one another.
If you get into relationships looking for someone to complete you, you will always be disappointed, but if you go into relationships looking for someone who is already complete whom you can join with and create an amazing life together, you will live a life of fulfilling and happy relationship.
Dennis Meyers was a normal everyday man until he suffered from a car accident that left him paralyzed from the waist down. After years of struggling to find joy and fulfillment in his new life, he discovered a way to make peace with his accident and has written about it in his book “You Have not a Leg to Stand On”.
“You’ve just got to go on”
1. You Have Just got to Go On
Life will knock you down, it will throw punches that put you on your knees, it will shatter you and batter you and try and keep you on the ground, but you have just got to go on.
Everyone will suffer in life, especially if you ever intend to do something great with yourself, the key is not if you suffer, but how you suffer. You must accept the hardships and move on with your life, grin and bear it, be willing to laugh in the face of pain.
There is little else that you can do, and allowing life to knock you down is a surefire recipe, not just for failure in business, but failure in life.
2. Learn to Take Life as it Is
Just as life will knock you down and you must learn to keep moving, so will life present you with situations and circumstances that aren’t ideal. While many people will moan and gripe about how unfair life is, the wiser man realizes that if there is nothing he can do to change the situation, he must simply take life as it is.
Make peace with the pain, because sometimes it’s all you can do.
3. Put Yourself Second
While life may be difficult at times, and may present massive challenges to many people, life is much more challenging if you are operating from a selfish perspective. You have to be willing to put yourself second, to live for something bigger than just you, to truly live a life of service, if you want to find peace in this life.
Serving others is the quickest way to remind yourself of all that you have to be grateful for and all the amazing blessings you have in your life.
Gary Szenderski is a writer, teacher, lover of life and proponent for positive change. He is a branding specialist, internationally acclaimed as an expert on the subject. He specializes in helping people and organizations navigate change and frequently speaks and writes on the topic of emerging brands and companies in transition.
In addition, Gary is an award-winning copywriter and an instructor at the University of California in Irvine. He resides in Southern California and welcomes your comments. email@example.com
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.”~Michelangelo
1. Always Be Willing to Aim Big and Miss Instead of Aiming Small and Winning
It’s incredibly easy in life to aim for small goals. To shoot for the realistic, the things that we know we can achieve, the goals that don’t scare us, than it is to dare audacious goals that are actually worthy of the men we are.
If you want to live a fulfilling life, you have to be willing to shoot for the stars and miss. If your goals don’t make you break into a cold sweat because you are scared you cannot achieve them, they are not big enough.
2. Become a Lifelong Student
Whenever a man achieves a certain level of success, it’s easy to drink your own kool aid and believe that you are this high and mighty guru who can do no wrong. But the truth is, the most successful people are always the most humble.
They are the ones asking for advice, sitting quietly and listening, and being a student of life. If you want to be successful, you have to approach life with an attitude of constant and never ending learning.
3. Replace Your Past with a More Empowering Future
If you are living in the past, there is no way to create an empowering future. You have to be willing to let go of the past to create the future that you want. Appreciate the past for the lessons that it taught you and the skills that it gave you, but let it go and embrace the future that you want to be living.
4. Life Exists in the Present Moment
This moment, right now, is all that you have. The past no longer exists, the future is an illusion, all you have is now. Live in the present moment and be willing to give your full in each and every second. That is the way to live a successful and positive life.
Josh Rivedal (founder, executive director of The i’Mpossible Project) is an author, actor, playwright, and international public speaker. He has spoken about suicide prevention, mental health awareness, and diversity in more than ninety locations across the U.S., Canada, the U.K., and Australia.
He has served on the board of directors for the New York City chapter of The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. He wrote and developed the one-man play, “Kicking My Blue Genes in The Butt” (KMBB), which has toured extensively throughout the U.S., Canada, and the U.K. His memoir The Gospel According to Josh: A 28-Year Gentile Bar Mitzvah, based on KMBB and published by Skookum Hill in 2013, is on The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention’s recommended reading list.
His book “How to Live Mentally Well and Crush it in College,” is being implemented by colleges and universities across the U.S. He writes for the Huffington Post. Coming soon in conjunction with The i’Mpossible Project: Winning the War on Depression and Living Mentally Well.
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal, it is the courage to continue that counts”~Winston Churchill
1. Connect with Positive People, Things, and Places
Life is so full of negatives. Of negative people, negative messages, and a general negativity that permeates our whole society.
If you want to remain and become as healthy, mentally, physically, and emotionally as you can, you have to learn how to connect with positive people, things, and places.
Spend more time with the people who lift you up, listen to some upbeat music instead of that crazy screamo stuff, and maybe even move to a new town with more sunshine and better views.
2. You Have to be Willing to Get Help
As men, we are so stubborn when it comes to seeking help. But life is a team sport, you cannot do it alone, nor should you want to. You must be willing to seek out the help and counsel of others who are wiser and more experienced than you.
Be willing to confide in a friend about your struggles, tell your family that you are not ok, and that you are actually struggling like hell, be willing to open up and be vulnerable and your life will change for the better.
3. Relationships Are What We Need as Humans
At the end of the day, life is about relationships, it’s about having a healthy relationship with yourself so that you can go forth and have a healthy relationship with others.
There is no juice in life if you do not have people to share it with, people to laugh with, to cry with, and go through the ups and downs of life with. We have nothing if we don’t have relationships and this is something that you must remember no matter what your goals or ambitions are.
Neil Strauss is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The Game, Rules of the Game, Emergency, and Everyone Loves You When You’re Dead and The Truth, An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships
He is also the co-author of three other New York Times bestsellers – Jenna Jameson’s How to Make Love Like a Porn Star, Mötley Crüe’s The Dirt and Marilyn Manson’s The Long Hard Road out of Hell. A writer for Rolling Stone, Strauss lives in Los Angeles.
“The underlying cause of most unfulfilled lives, is simply that we are too close to ourselves to see clearly enough to get out of our own way”~Neil Strauss
1. Understand how to Gauge Feedback
Life will often give you feedback about how you are doing across various areas. You may find yourself repeating the same patterns, getting into the same type of relationships, or making the same mistakes. Whatever the case, if you want to make a change you have to gauge feedback.
You have to look at the patterns in your life and discover what lesson they are trying to teach you. What does it say about you and your life that you are constantly dating the same type of girl and falling into the traps of “project dating”? What can you learn from the fact that you are constantly losing jobs after a few months?
Take a cold hard, honest look at your life and look at what the feedback is telling you and then change accordingly.
2. Your Level of Self Esteem will Equal the Level of Your Relationships
Have you ever heard the phrase opposites attract?
Well that’s bull shit. Like attracts like, and if you are finding yourself getting into relationships with women where you are both in an unhealthy emotional relationship, odds are, your own self esteem is lacking.
If you want to attract better women, first become better yourself and change what you accept from others and from yourself. If you have low self esteem you will never be able to attract a woman with high self esteem, and if you have high self esteem, you will never get sucked into a toxic relationships with a woman who has low self esteem.
3. Finding Your Passion is Simple
If you want to find your purpose, and passion, do stuff you love.
That’s it. If you love doing something, then keep doing it, don’t worry about whether it’s your real purpose or whether you should change careers to follow the money, simply do things that you love doing and you will never fail.
Jack Donovan moonlights as an advocate for men, tribalism, and paleo-masculinity. He has contributed popular essays and reviews to The Spearhead, Alternative Right, Counter Currents, The Hall of Manly Excellence, Amerika and other sites. He lives and works near Portland, Oregon.
1. It’s Not About Survival But Thriving
Being a “real man” or being good at being a man is not necessary in todays world. We pretty much have everything that we need in life, and living life as a supplicating, scared, cowardly man will allow us to survive.
But its not about that…
Life isn’t about survival, its about thriving, its about living to your fullest and giving your gifts to the world, and you can’t do that if you suck at being a man. You can’t do that if you are always looking to others for permission and to tell you what to do with your life. At some point you have to man up and take responsibility for your life.
2. You Have to Challenge Yourself
Life is too easy, men aren’t challenged the way they used to be, and it shows.
We are a generation of men who are soft, unable to do even the most basic tasks without calling a mechanic, plumber, or some other sort of assistance to help them with their incompetence.
If you want to be good at being a man, you have to challenge yourself, you have to get out of your comfort zone, and you have to do things that scare the hell out of you.
There is no path to growth without struggle, embrace this, challenge yourself, and grow into the man you were born to be.
3. Learn to Trust Yourself
Too often, men go looking to others to tell them how to live, instead of looking to other men to help guide them through life, they look for men who will live their lives for them and prevent them from having to make real decisions.
You have to learn to trust yourself and your intuition. Trust your gut, and trust yourself to know which path you need to take.
You may fail, in fact you may fail miserably, but it will be your failure.
4. Create Yourself, Don’t Just be yourself
The concept of being yourself is bullshit.
If you just be yourself, you will never grow or change into a man that is is worth a damn. You have to create yourself.
Decide who you want to be and start taking massive action to get yourself there, continue challenging yourself and growing into the man you were born to be.
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Craig Ballantyne has been the Editor of Early to Rise since 2011. He’s also a Strength & Conditioning coach in Toronto, author of Turbulence Training, a contributing author to Men’s Health magazine, and a member of the Training Advisory Board for Maximum Fitness and Oxygen magazines.
“Success is simple”
“First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do”~Epictietus
1. The First Mistake You Make in the Morning is Reacting vs. Responding
In the mornings, it is so easy to sleep through your alarm, start your morning in a frenzy and get put into a mode of reaction vs. responding.
When you start your day this way, the day is already lost, you have already fallen into the trap of reacting to your environment instead of responding to circumstances that you had already planned and prepared for.
To beat this, wake up 15 minutes before you have to and focus on your goals.
Not one hours, not two hours, just 15 minutes. 15 minutes to allow yourself to focus your intentions for the day and get into peak state. Consider it a gift to yourself, and after a few weeks of this your results and productivity will sky rocket.
2. Do a Brain Dump at the End of the Day
As we go on through our days, our brains become cluttered with all sorts of stuff from work, family, personal struggles, past failures, and future worries. At the end of each day, do what is referred to as a brain dump, where you sit and write out everything that is on your mind so that you are no longer mulling over it while you should be present.
Doing this will allow you to clear your head and show up fully whenever you are with your family, relaxing at the end of the day, hanging out with friends, or anything else that you decide to do.
3. Create a Vision Statement
One of the most important things that you can do is to decide where you are going and who you want to be and condense this into a mission statement that will remind you of your goals and keep you on track when decision making becomes difficult.
By having a vision that you are moving towards, you will stay focused on where you are headed instead of the pain of sacrificing pleasure in the moment for gain in the future.
4. Its not what you can do but what you can avoid doing
A significant portion of success is not just knowing what to do, but knowing what to avoid doing.
If you can understand your stumbling blocks, the things that cause you to fail and fall, and the distractions that prevent you from achieving at the level that you want to be, then you have won half of the battle.
By finding ways to use accountability and leverage to eliminate these distractions entirely, you will boost your productivity, happiness, and success 10 fold over.
5. Create Personal Commandments
In adittion to your vision statement, one of the best ways to add structure and simplicity into your life is to create personal commandments, rules that you follow no matter what that can guide you and make decisions easy.
Some examples of personal commandments could be
I can’t tell you what your commandments should be, but having a list of rules and guidelines that you follow is absolutely essential to becoming the man you want to be.
6. Structure Creates Freedom
Throughout much of the interview Craig discusses creating rules and guidelines for your life, and many of you may be turned off by the concept. But what you may not realize is that structure creates freedom.
By having rules in place you are free making difficult decisions based solely off of emotion, by having structure in your life, you will increase your success and free time and have more freedom to pursue the things you love and spend time with people that you love.
7. Follow the Law of Action Attraction
While many peopele may ascribe to the “Secret’s” law of attraction, Craig suggests the law of action attraction.
Basically focus on what you want, create the vision board, write the goals out, say your affirmations, and then take MASSIVE ACTION to achieve those goals.
Surround yourself with A+ players, create a mastermind, enlist the help of smarter people to aid you in achieving your goals, and take massive action.
Not only will you attract what you want into your life, but you will have taken the proper proportion of action required to ensure that you are ready for it.
8. Before You Start on the Journey Ask If It’s Worth It
Before you start down any journey, you must decide if it’s worth it. You have to have a strong enough reason for doing anything, or you will fail,. Plain and simple.
Whether the journey is a new instrument, sport, business, or relationship, ask if it is worth it before you begin and compare the opportunity to your vision statement and personal commandments
Want to learn how to be an alpha male? How to be more masculine? How to be the man you’ve always wanted to be?
Then you’re in the right place.
In this episode, I’m going to unveil the 15 habits of alpha males that you must develop to unlock your full potential as a man and live the life you’ve always wanted to live.
But let me be clear…
This article is not about becoming ‘better’ than other men, developing an ego complex, or learning how to be the alpha of a specific clique or social circle.
It’s about learning how to be an alpha male in your life. Taking full responsibility for your life, and living every day fully alive, present, and excited for the future that you are creating.
By the time you’re done, you’ll have a step-by-step guide to becoming the man you always knew you could be.
It won’t be easy. But I promise you, it will be worth it.
What does it mean to be an alpha male? What are the alpha male traits that separate them from the beta males? How can you develop your alpha personality and eradicate the toxic beta male traits from your life?
In this episode, I’m going to set the record straight and break the false narratives of what an alpha male really is.
I’m going to teach you exactly what it means to be an alpha male by dissecting the 9 alpha male traits required to become the strongest version of yourself and live your best life.
By the time you’re done, you’ll understand the difference between alpha vs beta males and have a clear, path to becoming the alpha of your own life.
Let’s get started…
Timothy Sykes is a stock trader who turned his $10,000 Bar Mitzvah money into $4,000,000 through exposing the losing game of penny stocks. He then went on to found Profit.ly a community of 84,000 traders, and run a leading trading coaching program called Millionaire Trader
“Eat, drink, and be merry”
1. Persistence and Patience Are The Only Paths to Success
So often when people set out on the path the financial success and freedom, especially within the stock market, they get in believing that they will have success quickly and painlessly, but the cold, hard, truth, is that this is rarely the case.
If you want to succeed in anything, be it with Penny stocks, podcasting, women, or life, you have to be willing to be patient, and persistent. You will get your ass kicked, you will fail, you will probably lose repeatedly before you win. But the ability to persist and remain patient despite challenges is what separates the winners from the losers.
So as you set down your path to success in life and business, remember, you will fail, you will struggle, but if you follow the proper systems and don’t give up, you will get there, and I promise, it will be worth it.
2. Convert Haters in Fans
While many people step on eggshells, trying to be as unoffensive and uncontroversial as possible, if you are doing big things in your life, you will have haters.
And while many gurus reccomend that you ignore haters, Tim prefers to convert them. In fact his first ever millionaire student became a student after publishing articles speaking against Tim’s methods before he tried them for himself.
Nothing will give you and your business more credibility than the ability to convert haters into testimonials, showing that what you sell and teach works, if you can master the art of conversion, your business success will skyrocket.
3. Money Can’t Buy Happiness but it’s Damn Important
Like Zig Ziglar said “Money isn’t everything, but it’s right up there with oxygen” and while money certainly isn’t everything, it is an indispensible tool that will allow you to live the life of your dreams.
If you have money and you know how to use it, you can live a life of freedom where you can do the things you want to do, and avoid the things you hate. You can live a life of fun, having the ability to travel, explore and adventure. And most importantly, you can live a life of impact, able to give more, share more, and help others achieve their goals.