Stephen is at the forefront of mind-opening new directions in leadership. For the past 25 years, he has guided business executives and influential leaders across the globe, to go beyond self-imposed limitations to new levels of leadership.
An international keynote speaker and author of three books on leadership, Stephen has transformed accomplished individuals around the country and initiated cultural change with major corporations such as Microsoft, Merck, Georgia Pacific and Firestone.
He recently completed his first film, Climb For Freedom, a documentary about the transformation of seven men summiting one of the world’s highest peaks and the profound impact of that journey on their lives and relationships.
“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience.” ~Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
1. Learn to See Problems as Opportunities
One of the most valuable skills that you can cultivate as a man and a leader is to control your perspective.
Look at everything in life as a spiritual experience that happens to you for a reason. This will allow you to see things that others would perceive as problems and you will be able to ask “What is the blessing?” “What is the lesson?”
This is easier said than done, but if you can shift your paradigm when the shit hits the fan, you will change your life in a radical way.
2. It is not the End
No matter what difficulty you are facing, whether a divorce, a bankruptcy, a loss of a loved one or any other tragic occurence, know that this is not the end.
It is simply the beginning of something new, you will survive and you will make it through, hold on.
3. Leadership is About Asking Questions
If you want to be a good leader, get really good at asking questions. That is what leadership boils down to is the art of being able to ask questions that bring about the best answers from those following you.
If you can become a master at asking the right question you will be a stronger leader than you ever imagined.
4. All Extrinsic Rewards come from Intrinsic Work
If you want more money, a beautiful wife, a million dollar business, a great body, or anything else, it all stems from internal work.
You have to put the work in on yourself and mold yourself into the person that you need to be before you can achieve the goals that you want to achieve.
5. Own Your Life and Change it
Quit whining, quit complaining, quit blaming others. End the victim mentality.
You are responsible for where you are in life, you and no one else. If you keep playing the blame game you will never be able to break free and live the life of your dreams. Only when you take 100% responsibility for your life are you able to take your life wherever you want it.
Drew Canole is a rockstar in the world of fitness, nutrition and mindset, with a huge heart for others and doing his part to transform the world, one person at a time.
As the founder and CEO of Fitlife.tv, he is committed to sharing educational, inspirational and entertaining videos and articles about health, fitness, healing and longevity.
“Remind yourself to check in with your thoughts”
1. Choose to Control Your Subconscious Mind
A mistake that many individuals make on their path to success is that they fail to realize the importance of the subconscious mind on their path to success. If you want to succeed in the world, you have to accept the power of your mind and learn how to harness it to help you achieve your goals and live a life of meaning purpose, and happiness.
2. Your Body and Your Spirit are Inseparably Related
The Bible says that your body is a temple, and this is true. It is the temple of your soul, and if you are not taking care of your body, your mind and your spirit cannot flourish to their fullest.
You have to cleanse your body, treat it like the vessel that it is and ensure that you are properly fueling, training, and repairing it if you want to live the life of your dreams.
All the money in the world, all the beautiful women in the world, and all the fame is useless if your body is too weak to enjoy those things.
3. Aim for Deep Impact Not Wide
In this social media generation, where success is measured in how many Facebook likes we have, we need to rewire our thoughts around success to focus on depth not width.
What this means is that instead of reaching 100,000 people who don’t take action and who don’t change their lives based off of what you say, just try and radically change the life of 1 person. While this is not sexy, it is the path to truly making a difference and you must shift your focus if you wish to achieve true impact.
4. Live in the Now
All that we have is the now, the more you live in the past or the future, the more stressed and anxious you become as you build up these lofty goals that you have no clue how to achieve. Instead of living in the future or the past, simply live in the now, focus on this moment and all that you have to be grateful for, do not worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will worry about itself!
If you can learn to live in the now you will achieve a success and a power in your life that you had never dreamed of before.
Christian McQueen is a men’s dating coach, blogger, entrepreneur, author and the founder of SelfFlix.com, The Netflix of Self-Improvement, an online self-improvement video course subscription site that streams step-by-step courses ranging from making money online to dating and social skills.
“Failure is not an option”.
1. Take Responsibility for Your Own Damn Life
We live in a day and age where people live live’s that they claim no responsibility.
They sit at home in front of their television, stuffing their face with processed shit, and never getting out to meet people and socialize and then they blame the government that they’re broke, big medicine that they’re fat, the high school bully who called them a name 15 years ago for the fact that they are alone and depressed in life.
Wake up, men!
No one is responsible for you except for you. Take responsibility for your own life, because if you don’t you can never change your life.
2. Watch Out for Red Flags
While you can be great with women at bars and clubs, being a good man and being good in relationships is a whole different ball game.
One of the biggest mistakes that most novices make when it comes to the relationship “game” is that they ignore red flags because the girls are hot or they’re having a lot of fun.
Be sure to watch out for girls who are clingy, on any kind of prescription meds, angry and inconsistent in any way.
If you want to learn a little bit more about this, check out Christian’s monster 10,000 + word post here
3. Stop Apologizing
Guys, we get it…
School, the government, and your parents raised you to be a polite little gentleman who always says please and thank you. That’s great!
But you know what’s not great?
The innumerable amount of men who have become pussified shells of the confident, assertive alpha males that once roamed the earth.
And while this problem goes much deeper than anyone issues and is tied to everything from the decline of the family structure, hormonal imbalance, to feminism, one of the easiest things you can do to start getting back on track is to stop apologizing.
We aren’t saying that if you run over someone’s dog you shouldn’t apologize, but men, when you are in a grocery store, and someone else runs into you because they were on their damn phone do NOT apologize for it. Don’t apologize because you are in someone’s way (guess what they are in your way too), don’t apologize unless you really need to.
4. Success with Finances and Women Are Paramount
There are truly two goals in a man’s life:
Get laid and get paid.
How those goals appear for you are quite frankly irrelevant. Whether you want to find that beautiful woman and settle down to a monogamous relationship and comfortable 9-5, or you want to be the next Casanova, traveling the world and bedding all sorts of exotic girls, is completely irrelevant.
You need to spend your early years learning how to meet and attract women, and how to make money. If you can master these two areas of your life, you will have the freedom and the peace of mind to pursue other things and go after your “passion.”
Because here’s the thing. Going after your passion is great, starting a family is great, and doing those things is a helluva lot easier with $250,000 saved in your account and a beautiful dime by your side who is loyal and loving.
5. Your Mission is Your Priority Not Women
Women are wonderful, we all love them and all straight men do most of the things that they do in order to attract the women that they desire. But the thing is, if you are reading this blog, odds are, you have a fire inside of you, you have a calling and a passion that is bigger than yourself, and importantly, bigger than any woman.
Men, you can never make a woman your whole priority in life, a priority, absolutely. The priority, no.
If you are in a long term relationship or marriage, then obviously it is your responsibility to be there for her, to love, her and provide for her, but your mission in life has to come first and she needs to understand that this is the case, and it doesn’t mean that you don’t love her, it simply means that you have a calling inside of you that cannot be limited to one single relationship.
So go after your mission men, and don’t hold back.
Sarah Jones is an online entrepreneur and dating coach for men who helps introverted men unleash the power inside of them to attract and date the beautiful women that they desire by expressing themselves openly and authentically, and avoiding the gimmicks of the PUA community.
“Enjoy the hell out of being you”
1. Love Being You
The first step that is essential to becoming a powerful man who can authentically relate with and attract the women he desires is simply to love being you.
Love who you are!
Love your weirdness, your quirky traits, your dreams and goals, your hobbies, your flaws, and your strengths.
Many people suggest that loving yourself often causes people to steer away from personal development, but the opposite is actually true. If you genuinely love yourself and love who you are, what is the more loving thing to do?
To allow yourself to live a mediocre life held back by fear and doubt?
Or to break free and step into the life that you know you can achieve?
2. You Have to Live by Your Values to Truly Attract Women
One of the reasons that many shy guys fail with women whenever attempting “pick up” is that the techniques and tactics taught in the pickup community, even among those who encourage you to be authentic and genuinely relate, are often out of line with the values that you may hold being an introverted male.
If you value genuine conversation and connection and are then told that you have to go to loud bars and clubs start dry humping on the dance floor to attract girls, you will feel disingenuous and it will come across in your interactions.
3. Break the Touch Barrier Quickly
One of the ways that many introverts fail with women is that they are quickly “friend zoned” because they have a difficult time breaking the touch barrier. A woman will never see you in a sexual light if you are not able to comfortable touch her in a respectful way (and quickly)
This does not mean you have to be groping and grab assing, it simply means that being able to initiate a playful touch on the arm or shoulder, or placing your hand on her knee to emphasize a segment of a story you are telling, will go a long way in having her see you as a potential boyfriend and a not a potential friend to cry to when her boyfriend turns out to be an asshole.
4. Your Inner World will be Reflected In Your Approaches
Women have a sixth sense when it comes to how you are showing up in the world. If you are inwardly feeling unconfident, very unsure of yourself, and unworthy of the girl you are trying to spark attraction with. it will come across and she will be able to tell almost immediately.
You have to first develop the inner confidence and put yourself in situations where you can be yourself (for example if you love music, go join a music meet up instead of trying to force going out to night clubs and bars), and then you will be able to meet and attract women easily and naturally.
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We live in a world caught between two extremes. In one breath, we eschew and vilify masculinity and traditionally “manly” virtues, labeling them as “toxic” and detrimental to society. Yet in another, we revel in them. Subconsciously pining for a resurgence in traditional masculinity.
We are enamored with the classically masculine archetypes that proliferate our favorite movies, books, and TV shows (think Jon Snow, Don Draper, Hank Moody, and Captain America).
The blood in our veins rips at the sight of a vicious knockout in the UFC and, as we watch the victor leap to the top of the cage with his arms held high in the air, we can’t help but imagine ourselves standing in his place…the taste of blood on our lips, the deafening roar of the crowd filling our ears, and the inner confidence of knowing that we are capable of handling ourselves in conflict.
Yet all of our imagining does little to change the way we feel and show up in life.
Despite our desire to “be the man”, to feel strong, accomplished, and powerful…our desires are left unmet. We are not the hero of our lives so we allay our growing sense of emasculation by watching other hero’s through a steady stream of action movies, video games, and extreme sports.
The reason is simple…
Men today are lost. In the famous words of Bob Dylan, “The times, they are a-changing.” And modern men have failed to evolve with the changing times.
As feminism has given rise to unprecedented equality men are faced with a growing and inescapable sense of obsolescence.
Men aren’t needed in the way that we once were and, our seeming lack of utility has left men wondering, “What the hell am I supposed to do now?” We no longer have clear roles in society and men all over the world want to know how to be more masculine and even if it’s okay.
And today, I'm going to give you the answers you've been looking for.
Dale Partridge is a social entrepreneur and founder of Sevenly.org and StartupCamp.com. Described as “a mind who feels the trends before market,” Partridge teaches leaders and organizations how to position their brand, love their people, and develop profitable corporate social responsibility programs.
He’s a renowned expert on branding, consumer psychology, and marketplace trends. He is an avid speaker and has been featured in various business publications including the cover of Entrepreneur Magazine, Fox News, NBC, INC Magazine, Mashable, MSN Money, Forbes and the Los Angeles Times. Dale resides with his family in Bend, Oregon.
“Never get too busy making a living that you forget to make a life”~Dolly Parton
1. Accountability is Key
On your path to becoming the best man that you can be, there are a couple of key ingredients that, if you are lacking, will cause you to fail miserably.
One of those keys is accountability.
You have to have strong men in your life who are willing to speak truth and push you to become your best self. Men who are willing to call you out on your weaknesses and affirm your strengths. Without a strong support system you will fail. It is essential to your success as a man, in business, marriage, and personal growth that you develop this accountability and stick to it.
2. Men Are Overly Courageous in Business and Fearful in Family
A huge problem with men today is that they are courageous in business and timid in their family lives.
They draw all of this satisfaction from succeeding on the front of business, making millions and achieving their dreams, that they forget to be good fathers, husbands, and sons.
If you want to live up to your full potential as a man, you have to have a balance between both. You have to succeed in business so that you can provide for your family, but you also have to be willing to sacrifice a bigger paycheck to be the man that your family needs.
3. Build Generosity into Your Life
One of the cornerstones of being a good man is being generous. If you want to live a life of purpose and fulfillment, build generosity into your life, don’t sprinkle it in as an afterthought.
Give your time, money, and resources to charities that you believe in, be willing to listen to the homeless guy on the street, sit and have a conversation with someone in need. Be generous in all areas of your life and it will come back to you, but more importantly, at the end of the day when you meet your maker, you will have a clean conscience and a full heart.
Dr. Roberto Canessa., is one of the 16 survivors of the Uruguayan Air Force Flight 571, which crashed in the Andes mountains on October 13, 1972
“Don’t wait for the helicopters to rescue you”
1. You Have to Rescue Yourself
In life, no one is coming to save you, there are no helicopters on the way, you have to rescue yourself.
In business, there is no one coming with that promotion you aren’t willing to work and ask for, in relationships, there are no beautiful women waiting in line to marry you while you play video games and live a mundane life, there is no magic pill to make you the best version of yourself, you have to choose to be the best, and fight for it every day.
You have to rescue yourself.
2. Know there is Hope
No matter how bleak things look right now, know that there is hope, there is always something better waiting for you if you are willing to have patience and put in the work. No matter how hard it is, no matter how much you want to give up, stay strong and have hope.
3. Take it One Step at a Time
If you want to succeed at anything, just take it one step at a time. Don’t think about the massive journey ahead of you, just think about the natural next step, think about the one thing that you need to do today.
If you can have laser focus on the next thing you need to accomplish your success in life and business will skyrocket.
4. Don’t Wait for the Plane to Crash
Life is beautiful and we have so much to be grateful for. Don’t wait for your plane to crash to realize that. Spend time every day in thanks, thinking about the people, things, and experiences you love.
Just be grateful and allow the world to spin in its own way without worrying about it.
A nationally known writer, speaker, and publisher in alternative spirituality, MITCH HOROWITZ is the author of “One Simple Idea: How Positive Thinking Reshaped Modern Life” and “Occult America,” winner of the 2010 PEN Oakland/ Josephine Miles Award for literary excellence. He is vice-president and editor-in-chief at Tarcher/Penguin, the division of Penguin books dedicated to metaphysical literature.
1. Just Persist
If you are struggling in life be it in your finances, relationships, or sense of meaning in life, just persist. Nothing good ever comes from people who can give up.
You have to be willing to take the hits and keep on moving, to put in the work whenever everyone else parties, to put your nose to the grindstone while others sleep. If you can persist and keep going, success will come, it may take years, but if you put in the work and push through the hard times, you will succeed in the end.
2. Don’t Ask How, Just Why
If you have to ask “how” odds are that you don’t really want to do something. If you came across a wild bear and had to get away, you wouldn’t ask how to get out of the way, you would just do it! And the same is true of success.
If you really want to do something and have a strong why, then you will be able to figure out the how no matter what.
3. You Have Nothing But Your Word
We have all heard that a man has nothing but his word. And as cliche as it may sound, this is true.
You have nothing but your word. If you cannot be trusted, if you have no integrity with others and yourself, then what do you really have to offer the world?
You have to be a man of your word, take your word and your integrity more seriously than you take your job, your relationships, your passions or anything because your word is the only measure of a man.
Chris Duffin is an accomplished power lifter, coach and gym owner, he holds the world record for the raw squat in the 220 lb weight class and holds a Guinness World Record for the most weight deadlifted in 1 minute with 42 reps at 405 lbs. He is the head coach and co owner at the Elite Performance Center.
Reject complacency like it’s a poison, chase your vision like its your last breath, this is your path to achieving greatness”
1. Reject Complacency and Live in Fear
If you are not growing then you are dying. If you are a driven man who wants to achieve great things in your life and you take the action necessary to achieve those things, then odds are, you will come to a point in your life where you are comfortable. You will have made your millions, become successful with women, possibly having the dream wife, the big house, and the passive income business. But this is when life becomes most dangerous.
Life is unpredictable and volatile. Once you achieve success you are at your most vulnerable because this is when you feel that you have permission to stop growing and pushing yourself. This is something that you must root out of your life like a cancer. You have to constantly grow, reject complacency, and live in fear. Live in fear because you are doing things that you don’t know you will be able to achieve, things that are making you better and making you stronger.
2. Success Builds Trust
If you want people to trust you, show them results. If you have a proven track record behind your name, then people will naturally support you when you start to take on more and more challenging tasks and activities. How can you expect your family to trust you in starting and growing a new business when you haven’t even achieved success in your current job? How can you expect business partners and investors to trust you when you have no proof of your abilities.
Do what it takes to become successful and later, whenever you are making bigger and bigger leaps, you will already have the trust of the important people in your life.
3. Prioritize Your Life
The age old excuse that you don’t have time for something is just a big lie you keep telling yourself. You have time for whatever you prioritize, and if you do not prioritize business, health or relationships, then they will suffer, there’s no way around it.
If you want to achieve greatness then you have to prioritize it.