Dan Kariv is the CEO of multiple companies including Amped Ventures and Math4Sale, Inc. – a startup that is currently generating 7-figures in revenue.
His life journey has been fueled by a passion to uncover and distill the spiritual truths of reality and exploring them along the journey of entrepreneurship and the pursuit of freedom so that he can better serve the world.
“True freedom is the ability to choose how you spend each day.”
1. Are You Being the Best Version of Yourself?
Every second of your life, you have a choice. You can either choose to show up as the best, most powerful, most grounded version of yourself, or you can choose to allow fear and external pressures suppress your strength and live a life below your potential.
In every challenging situation, whether it is a meeting at work, an argument with your wife, or some other battle that you face, ask yourself “Am I being the best version of myself right now?”
Are you showing up and leaving everything on the table, are you attacking life with a vigor and energy that makes others stand in awe, or are you playing it safe?
Keep this question in the forefront of your mind each day and you will be amazed at the paradigm shifts you will experience.
2. Freedom Comes with a Price
Freedom of any kind, whether it is freedom of location, financial freedom, physical freedom, or social freedom (e.g. freedom from approach anxiety), comes with with a price tag.
Freedom is not free. It is earned. It is taken. It is wrestled from the jaws of fear and uncertainty and doubt.
If you want a life of your own design, a life of true power where you can be who you want and live life on your terms, then you are going to have to pay for it.
Achieving freedom requires discipline and sacrifice. It requires years, sometimes decades of giving up what you want now for a future of unlimited potential.
As the old saying goes, “Live like no one else will today so that you can live like no one else can tomorrow.”
3. Fear is the Pathway to Power
One of the quickest ways to achieve success is to see your fears as the pathway to power. See fear as the guiding force in your life that tells you where you should be going and what you should be doing.
The more fear you feel, the more you will know you are on the right track.
Do not let fear paralyze you.
Realize that on the other side of every fear is a stronger, more powerful, and more grounded man.
Overcoming your fear to start your business or talk to that girl or get off the couch and go to the gym will lead to personal growth and success that you could never have imagined.
Embrace the fear and achieve your dream life.
4. What Do You Want to be Remembered For?
It is easy to live our lives without ever truly considering our legacies.
But the simple fact is, all of us are going to die. We are all headed towards the same fate. And 100 years from now, the only thing that will differentiate your life from everyone else’s is the impact that you had and the difference that you made.
Devote time each day to thinking about the person that you want to become.
Think about how you want to be remembered.
Do you want to be remembered as the grinder? The philanthropist? The family man?
No matter what you want your legacy to be, make the definite decision to take the necessary actions to leave behind a life that will be remembered how you want to be remembered.
5. Success Requires You to Hone Your Capacity
If you want to succeed at any endeavor in life, you must first hone your capacity.
You must become a student to your craft and be willing to put your nose to the grindstone, working and learning, all the while approaching your craft with a deep humility.
The more and more capable you become at any skill, the more you will find your ego and insecurities melting away.
You will no longer feel the need to prove yourself to the world because you already have a deep inner confidence in yourself and your capacity for success.
Charlie Brenneman is a former UFC (Ultimate Fighting Championship) competitor in the lightweight division with an overall fight record of 19 wins and 8 losses.
After leaving the UFC two years ago, Charlie has devoted himself to helping other people achieve the success that they desire and deserve through professional coaching, speaking, and entrepreneurship.
“You are what you repeatedly do, excellence is not an act but a habit” ~
1. Success is About Giving Everything You Have
In our materialistic and results driven society, it is easy to get caught up in this idea that success is all about making a certain amount of money, winning every competition, and reaching every goal.
But the truth is much deeper than that. While accomplishment should certainly play a central role in every man’s definition of success, the missing piece of the puzzle is the effort that you devote to achieving your goals.
If you put everything that you have into the attainment of a goal, if you are relentless and driven to a point that many people consider you insane and you still don’t achieve your desired outcome, then guess what?
You are still a success.
You showed up, you put in the work, and you did everything that you could do. Sometimes despite your best efforts, the stars simply don’t align. And it’s times like this where you can look at yourself in the mirror with pride, knowing that you gave it your all and are still a man of success despite the perceived failure.
2. A Life of Fulfillment Comes from the Habit of Pursuing the Uncomfortable
So many people believe that fulfillment will come whenever they reach a certain goal. Whenever they have seven figures in their bank account, are married to the model wife, or driving the Ferrari.
In reality, however, as men, we derive our true sense of fulfillment from constantly pursuing a life of “uncomfortability.”
A life where we don’t know whether we will succeed, a life of struggle and triumph, a life, as Teddy Roosevelt put it, “In the arena, with your face marred by blood, and sweat, and tears.”
If you want to be fulfilled and live every day with a smile on your face and joy in your heart, then get out of your comfort zone. Get uncomfortable and start pushing the boundaries of what you think is possible in your life.
3. Humility is a Hallmark of the Greats
No matter how successful you become, there is always someone out there who is better than you. And if you want to truly succeed at any endeavor, then you need to have the humility to learn from others and devote yourself to constant improvement.
If you look at any great man in sports, business, or life, you will notice that no matter their stature, they were always willing to take criticism and look for ways to improve their craft.
From billionaires like Sam Walton to All-Stars like Kobe Bryant, they all approached their field with a deep and genuine humility, accepting that they did not know everything and had plenty of room to improve.
If you truly want to be one of the greats, then you need to take the same approach to your life.
4. Accept the Struggle
Whenever you start out at anything, whether it is a business, a sport, an instrument, or improving your social skills, you are going to suck.
It’s not pretty, it’s not nice, but it is the cold hard truth. You are going to suck, and you are going to suck for a long time.
The quicker that you can come to terms with this and accept that the journey is part of the joy of mastery, the sooner you will be able to overcome your own egotistical nature and truly become an expert in your craft.
So embrace the suck. Don’t take yourself too seriously, and get ready for months or even years of fumbling through until you become proficient in your field.
5. Surround Yourself with the Best
The quickest way to accelerate your own growth is to surround yourself with people who are playing the game of life at a higher level than you are.
Find people in your field who are performing at a level 10X your current level and get around them.
Figure out what habits, tactics, and mindsets are separating them from the 99% and putting them into the proverbial hall of fame.
The sooner that you can build up your circle of friends and mentors who are playing at a higher level, the quicker you will achieve your own goals and truly embrace your own potential.
If you’ve ever wanted to learn how to build a successful real estate business or simply get an inside look inside the mind of an entrepreneurial prodigy…this interview with Jaelin White will give you everything you want and more.
Not only is Jaelin the youngest person I’ve ever had on the show, but he’s also one of the most successful.
Over the past few years, he went from a no-name kid from Arizona to one of the biggest real estate influencers in the industry with a multi-million dollar business, partnership with Tai Lopez, and (of course) a sweet Lambo.
I promise, you’ll be blown away by this interview.
Jaelin White is a 19-year-old entrepreneur and real estate investor who turned a $180 investment into over $33,000 in roughly two months in one of the most competitive housing markets in the country.
Jaelin now earns multiple six figures a year, is mentored by high-level entrepreneurs like Tai Lopez and is happily married to his wife Brianna.
“The master has failed more times than the beginner has ever tried” ~Stephen McCraine
1. The Best Investment You Can Make is in Yourself
One of the immutable and irrefutable laws of success is that to achieve anything great, you must first invest in yourself and become the kind of man with the skillsets and character traits required to reach your goals.
There is no way around it. To achieve great things, you must be willing to invest heavily in your personal and professional growth.
An investment in a stock or real estate property might make you some money, but an investment in your own growth and education can make you a fortune.
You’re only one idea, one connection, or one lesson away from changing your life forever so pull out all the stops and do whatever it takes to become the man you need to be.
Whether this means attending seminars, hiring a coach, purchasing online courses or even just reading books written by some of the brightest minds in your industry, success requires a ruthless investment in your personal development.
Attend local masterminds, get a library card and check out every (recommended) book on your industry, find a mentor in your area and offer to work for free in exchange for their wisdom and guidance.
The long term return on these investments is incalculable.
To this day Tony Robbins still claims that the $35 he invested into a seminar with Jim Rohn was the greatest investment he ever made.
2. You Need to Build Your Board of Directors
There is an old saying that you are the average of the five people with whom you spend the most time with, and truer words have never been spoken.
If you want to elevate your life in every way, in your health, your relationships, your finances, and your personal growth, then you need to surround yourself with people who will push you and encourage you to succeed.
Seek out mentors and friends who are achieving on a higher level than you who are willing to call you out on your failures and lift you up for your successes.
When you surround yourself with other high-achievers, you’ll subconsciously start to pick up on their patterns and behaviors. You’ll learn how to speak the “language of winners”, you’ll see their habits and rituals firsthand and you’ll get an insiders look at how the top 1% really think and behave.
Virtual coaches and mentors are a good start, but nothing beats extreme exposure to individuals playing the game at a higher level than you are today.
Once you build this infrastructure of support and accountability, your life will radically transform in way you can’t possibly imagine.
3. You Have to Make the Definite Decision to Succeed
The only thing separating you from your wildest dreams and ambitions is that you have not yet made the definite decision to achieve them.
Once you look yourself in the mirror and say, “Enough is enough! I will achieve my goals come hell or high water. I will do whatever it takes and will not rest until I am a success.” then nothing can stop you.
While it might sound overly simplistic, it’s the truth. Once you make a definite decision, everything changes.
The trick is that you must make this decision from a place of certainty. Most people ‘want’ success. But want is not nearly enough. You must be willing to pay the price of admission and do the hard work required to achieve the outcomes you want.
The simple truth is that almost anyone, anywhere in the world can achieve 10X more success than they are today (at least, if you live in a developed country with access to the internet and a modicum of freedom). But most people aren’t willing to do what it takes to achieve the goals they claim to want.
So take a hard look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, “Am I willing to suffer for this goal? Am I willing to bleed, sweat, and cry to make this happen?”
Until the answer is a resounding “hell yes!”, you cannot and will not make the decision to succeed.
4. Focus on Revenue Generating Activities
One of the simplest habits that you can start implementing today is to shift all of your focus towards revenue-generating activities.
Plain and simple, if it is not going to earn you money, then don’t do it.
Too many “wantrepreneurs” focus on vanity metrics like followers, likes, and engagement. But none of these things matter. The only thing that matters are the activities that push the envelope forward and put money in your pocket.
If there are tasks that need to be done that do not directly result in the generation of revenue, then outsource them so that you have more time to work on building your cash flow.
The more you focus on profits, the faster your business will grow.
Jim Wolfe is a coach and author who helps men live life without regret, build genuine confidence, achieve fulfillment and true success, and have satisfying relationships.
He is obsessed with reading, writing, learning, travel, and personal growth. He draws on a tremendous variety of sources to create effective educational experiences.
He is also the author of Level Up and Attract Her and Keep Her.
“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value” ~Albert Einstein
1. Focus on Internal Fulfillment Not External Success
One of the biggest mistakes that most men make is that their primary focus is on external success and not internal fulfillment.
They try and derive their sense of satisfaction from the women they sleep with, the cars they drive, or the number of 0’s in their bank account instead of defining success for themselves and living out a life that is true to who they are.
Instead of focusing on achievement, start to focus on being someone of value, someone who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to step out into the world and take it.
Focus more on the man that you are becoming than the things you are achieving.
Because at the end of the day, if you become a man of integrity, honor, grit, and discipline, the external success will fall into place.
2. Success in Relationships is About Adding Value
If you want to succeed with women, then you need to completely change your mindset.
You have to shift away from the societal preconditioning that women only want good looks, money, and status and realize that the best way to seduce a woman is to provide value by being your authentic self.
If you are someone she loves to be around, someone who can listen, inject humor, and provide a strong grounded base for her to trust, then it doesn’t matter how much money you have, what car you drive, or what you look like.
Women want men who add value to their lives, not men who try and impress them with external “stuff”.
3. You Must Cultivate a High Sense of Internal Value and Strength
In the initial phases of attraction, success with women is dependent on a few key factors.
The first, and most important factors are a high level of internal value and strength.
But what does that really mean?
Having a high level of internal value means that you value yourself more than any woman or relationship. It means that you are content to continue living your life with or without your significant other because your sense of self-worth comes from inside of you and not from a woman.
Internal strength, on the other hand, is your ability to display to women that you are a strong grounded man who is not reactive to or dependent upon the actions of others.
This is one of the reasons that women will often test men. It’s not because they want to get under your skin, it’s because they want to test you and see if you are strong enough to hold frame and respond to their tests in a non-reactive and grounded manner.
4. If You Want to Succeed with Women, Have them Chase You
Have you ever heard the saying that “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”?
Well, this is especially true with women and dating. Women want to see that the man they are pursuing is busy. They want to see that he has a life outside of her and is pursuing goals outside of their relationship.
Therefore, one of the keys to success during the early phases of attraction is to limit your availability.
If you are only able to go out with a woman that you are seeing once or twice a month, they will respect your time, be more excited to see you, and place more value on the time that they do have with you.
Be intentional about your availability and the women in your life will be even more attracted to you.
5. To Keep Your Woman You Must Give Her Positive Attention and Respect
Once you have attracted a woman and have decided to settle in for a relationship, the game has completely changed.
Seduction and relationships are two completely different things.
Whenever you are in a relationship, one of the biggest keys to maintaining that relationship is that you show your woman positive attention and respect.
This means that you are willing to pause the football game and talk with her about her day. It means that you build her up in public and hold your temper when you fight.
It means that you start to value her on a deeper level and are willing to put some of your hobbies (not your dreams and passions) on hold to satisfy her needs.
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Dr. Ernhard Vogel, Ph.D, was born in Germany at the height of World War II, struggling to survive in the war-torn country.
After immigrating to America, Dr. Vogel became obsessed with self-realization and mastery.
Now, he runs a yoga, meditation, and self-realization center where he guides people through life’s challenging questions and helps them uncover the answers already within themselves.
He is the author of the book, The Four Gates and a coach and speaker at Nataraja Meditation Center in San Diego.
“May you find yourself sufficiently worthy to become attentive to yourself and to relate to yourself in full power and love that you deserve.”
1. Live Your Life As an Expert
One of the biggest mistakes that we make in our lives is that we try to become an expert at everything except for life.
We try and master our hobbies, our professions, our relationships, and our bodies, but we never try and master the art of living.
The art of being in the moment and living life as you.
I know that this may sound a little bit metaphysical and woo-woo, but you need to realize that one of the most essential parts of life is to become an expert at living.
Learn to savor each moment and be.
Become an expert at the art of life.
2. Just Be
We are so caught up in so many different things in our life that we often forget to appreciate our lives, to just live in the moment, to just be.
True fulfillment comes from living your life, not from achievement.
Start making a conscious effort to just be.
Appreciate the colors in the park, appreciate the beauty of the people in your life, notice the tastes of your food, enjoy each moment fully and watch your life transform.
3. Realize that Your Senses Are Distracting You
We live in a society that thrives upon sensory distractions.
We walk around every day in a constant state of stimulation with advertisements and technology vying for our attention, drawing us away from what is truly important.
As you set upon your journey or “living expertly” you must learn to minimize your sensory distractions.
Take time alone to just be, get out in nature, or spend time with close friends.
Focus on living your life and not on the number of Facebook likes your latest selfie is generating.
4. Success is Internal not External
In the Western world, our happiness is contingent upon external validation.
Whether it is the hot wife, the fast car, the big house, or the bank account with six zeroes in it, our happiness and fulfillment are based upon factors outside of ourselves.
This is why the majority of the population is depressed, anxious, and (frankly) miserable.
If you want to achieve true fulfillment, then realize that happiness is internal.
If you are a part of the Knowledge for Men community and have the technology to read this article, then you already have everything that you need to live a happy and fulfilled life.
You are not fighting for your life, wondering where your next meal will come from, or witnessing the murder of your loved ones during a violent dictatorship.
Therefore, you have everything you need to be fulfilled already inside of you.
Stop worrying about the accolades and the
5. Accept that Death is a Part of Life
You cannot truly live a full and adventurous life without accepting that you are going to die.
Everything that you love and everything that you have built will one day end.
And what’s funny is that this should not be seen as a negative thing.
The fact that everything comes to an end makes every second more precious, it allows you to live fully without fear, knowing that no matter how many mistakes you make or how many times you fail, the consequences are never as severe as you feared.
Accept the inevitability of death and you will be empowered to live your life with a freedom you had never known.
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Anthony DiClementi is an executive health and fitness coach, biohacker, and expert in functional medicine.
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“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” ~Theodore Roosevelt
1. Think Less Do More
So many people who are involved in the world of personal development make the critical mistake of absorbing too much information without taking the requisite action that makes that information valuable.
If you are not where you want to be in your life despite the books, online courses, and seminars, then stop what you are doing right now and go take some freaking action.
Don’t read another book about fitness, go to the damn gym and lift some weights.
Don’t watch videos on pickup, go talk to the next pretty girl you see.
Quit watching Shark Tank and go take the first step to starting your own business.
The simple truth is that success is hard. It takes time, patience, failure, and iteration. You will never get it right on the first go and the more time you spend thinking and analyzing your goals and vision, the less time you’ll spend actually moving the needle forward and making progress.
So commit to taking action. Take the first step today and realize that you can learn what you need to learn along the way.
Go pick up a barbell and do some deadlifts. Once you’re in the gym consistently, then you can worry about rep scheme, time under tension, and supplementation.
Go talk to the next attractive woman you see. Once you start interacting with women in the real world, you’ll gain a better understanding of your strengths and weaknesses and can learn how to improve your interactions with women from there.
Go launch your website and start building your email list. Once you have taken action, you’ll figure out the lessons you really need to scale to the next level.
2. How You Feel Doesn’t Matter
If you only do what you feel like doing, you will never accomplish anything great in your life.
There will be times where you don’t want to work, put time into your relationships, or go to the gym.
But guess what?
It doesn’t matter, if you want to succeed, you have to control your emotions and not allow them to control you.
Remember that motion creates emotion.
Even if you don’t feel like working, as soon as you sit down to work, you will become motivated.
As soon as you set foot in the gym, you will find yourself more energized and alive.
Your feelings are fleeting. They are a fickle mistress that will abandon you when you need them most and attack you when you expect them the least. To accomplish great things, you must learn to take action despite your emotions. You must learn to overcome the way you feel and focus on what you value.
Your mission, your goals, and your life are more important than how you feel in the moment. And the more you can learn to act in alignment with your values instead of your feelings, the better and more successful your life will be.
3. You Need Someone Who Has Achieved What You Want
If you want to achieve the highest levels of success, you need a coach or mentor.
There’s no way around it.
No way great has ever succeeded without someone smarter and more talented then them guiding their path and advising them on the best course of action.
If you are overweight despite going to the gym and eating well, hire a coach who can show you where you are taking improper action so you can achieve your dream body.
If your life is going downhill quickly despite your best efforts, hire a coach who can help you to achieve your goals and who can point out your blindspots and weaknesses and help you overcome them.
When you have objective outside eyes on your life from people who have “been there, done that”, you won’t have to wonder if you’re doing the right things. You will know you are on the path to success and you’ll be able to take massive and strategic action toward achieving the life you’ve always wanted.
4. Success Starts with Your Mindset and Your Routines
The key to success starts in your mind and is then translated into your routines.
If you can show me someone’s routines, I will show you their outcomes and their levels of success in every area of life.
To succeed, you must develop rock-solid routines to ensure that you can achieve at the highest level.
This means creating a morning routine, exercising regularly, spending time around people who are smarter then you are, and educating yourself on a daily basis.
There is no way around it, your routines and mindset determine the quality of your life.
Period.
5. If You Want to Transform Your Life Start with Your Health
If you really want to transform your life, start with your health.
If you have more energy, a more balanced body, and higher cognitive function, everything else will start to fall into place.
You will be sharper at work, more motivated, more fluid in social situations, and, of course, a helluva lot sexier.
Your body is your home, take care of it and don’t take it for granted.
Erik Newton is a former family law attorney, and founder of Together Magazine and The Together Show Podcast. Erik describes himself as someone who’s “been through a thousand divorces and still believes in love.”
Ushering couples through divorce was never pleasant, but it turned out to be the ideal medium through which to understand the entire lifecycle of a relationship. As a result, Erik has a unique, real-world comprehension of what makes one marriage thrive and another fall apart.
During his time as an attorney, Erik teamed up with a psychologist friend to lead premarital courses for couples, hoping to give them the skills they’d need to stay out of his office.
Ultimately, his calling to help couples build healthy relationships superseded his legal career, and he decided to dedicate himself full-time to creating a place couples could go for information, inspiration, and a big dose of truth. That’s whenTogether.Guide was born.
“If you don’t ask, it’s an automatic no”
1. There is Only the Present Moment
It is so easy to get caught up in our past mistakes and future worries.
Most of us are living our lives in a reality that does not really exist, we spend all of our time thinking about mistakes that we made in the past and our plans and fears for the future.
If you want to truly be happy, if you want to truly have fulfilling relationships and you want to see your life transform before your eyes, then see every moment as the beginning.
Right now, this very second, you have a choice.
It’s not about what you did or what you are going to do in the future, it is about who you are deciding to be in this present moment.
Always remember that this is the most important decision that you can make.
2. Compassion is Essential in Every Stage of Your Relationships
One of the biggest mistakes that most couples make whenever they are going through a challenging time or approaching the end of a relationship is that they lose the compassion they once had for their partner.
You need to always approach your partner with a level of empathy and understanding, no matter how badly they have hurt you or what they have done to you.
Because if you do not, you will only be poisoning your own life and cutting off any possibility of a relationship with that person, platonic or otherwise.
3. When Something is Not Working, Get Excited
It is so easy to get depressed and down on yourself when something is not working in your relationship.
Whether you are afraid things are going to end or you are simply losing the passion that you once had, whenever you start to face a struggle in your relationship, it is time to get excited.
Why?
Because if something is not working, then you have the chance to either end the relationship and move onto something better or dive even deeper in your relationship with your partner as you overcome this new obstacle.
Just like challenges in life are a chance for you to grow as a man, challenges in relationships are a chance for you to grow with your partner.
4. View Every Major Break Up as a Chance to Learn
Anytime you suffer from a major breakup, whether with a girlfriend or a divorce with a wife, you need to realize that this is nothing more than a chance for you to learn.
See it as a privilege that you had the breakup.
Because now you are a stronger, more grounded, and more knowledgeable man who knows what he wants moving forward.
Never suffer through any major life event without taking time to figure out what you can learn and how you can change things moving forward.
5. If You Want to Save Your Relationships Remember Money, Sex, & Kids
The three things that cause more relational strife than anything else are money, sex, and children.
And it’s not necessarily the actual problems with money, sex, and children, it is the expectations that each partner has about these topics that are unspoken.
If you do not want children and your woman does, this needs to be addressed before you get married.
If your girlfriend is buried in debt from college then this is something you need to talk about before you move on to the next level.
Whatever your sexual expectations and fantasies are, they need to be addressed and discussed with your significant other.
Before you move to a new level in your relationships, make sure that these three areas are discussed and agreed upon, otherwise, you will face more stress than you ever thought possible.
Part of the new generation of spiritual visionaries and thought leaders, Derek Rydall is the author of the #1 Amazon/Barnes & Noble best-seller EMERGENCE: Seven Steps for Radical Life Change and the world’s #1 expert on the revolutionary Law of Emergence.
He has trained top executives at Fortune 500 companies (from American Express to Disney) in empowered leadership and communications, and has coached celebrities and media professionals, including Oscar and Emmy winners, on creating conscious entertainment.
“What is before us and what is behind us are small matters compared to what is inside us”
“We must remove our bloated sense of nothingness out of the way of the divine circuits” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
1. Let Go of Your Ego
Just like Ryan Holiday said, ego truly is the enemy.
You need to realize that you are not your ego. Your ego is simply a childish part of you that feels the need to be validated through sex, money, and other empty accolades.
If you want to live a life of true fulfillment, then you must first let go of your ego and your need for validation.
Be willing to accept yourself as you are and pursue a life that is based on what you truly want and not your egotistical need for validation.
2. You Have Everything You Need to Succeed Within You
So many people think that everything they need to succeed is outside of them.
This simply isn’t true.
If you want to succeed in your life and do the things that you dream of, everything you need is inside of you. You simply have to peel back all of the bullsh!t until you unlock the power within you that was always lying hidden away.
You have everything you need to succeed.
You have the drive, the discipline, the compassion, the skills, everything. You just have to get rid of all the societal conditioning and external expectations to achieve it.
3. You Cannot Improve Upon the Self Just Your Skills
You can’t improve upon the self.
You can only develop new skills and improve aspects of your personality and skillset, but you cannot improve upon the self.
While this might sound like an overly spiritual statement, once you understand its validity, your life will never be the same.
You can stop wasting time trying to make yourself better and improve who you are, and instead, you can focus your efforts on improving the aspects of your character and skill sets that are lacking.
4.Know Thyself
Life is not about accumulating possessions but about how much you possess yourself.
If you want to succeed and live a fulfilled life, then you have to know yourself.
Know who you are, know what you want, know your truth.
Not what society says you are are, not what your parents say, and not what any religion says. Know who you say you are and who you want to be.
5. Where There is No Vision You Will Perish
If you do not have a vision, your life will amount to nothing at the end of the day.
You have to have a vision for your life, an ultimate goal of who you want to become and who you want to help.
Who do you want to be, who do you want to help, and what you want to achieve.
Once you have a vision you can build your life around this.
Professionally, Alicia M. Smith is an Award-Winning Author who most recently released the book Common Stones, and Special Project Consultant at Public Consulting Group, in Nashville, TN. She has obtained a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology from Wayne State University, as well as a Master of Arts degree in Industrial/Organizational Psychology from Xavier University.
“Every no gets me closer to my yes” ~Robert D. Smith
1. Success is in Our Decisions Not Our Conclusions
Many people think that success is about the attainment of something, but the truth is, success is about who you become along the way and the decisions that you make.
Who would you consider a success?
The man who achieved his goal of making a million dollars in a year but did it in an unethical way or the man who was presented with the opportunity to make a million unethically but stuck to his guns and did what he knew was right?
I think we both know the answer.
Success is truly about living a life with honor and integrity, not any material outcome.
2. Be Relentless
There is an old quote from Winston Churchill that summarizes this concept succinctly but brilliantly.
If you are going through hell, keep going
It doesn’t matter how difficult life is or what challenges the world may through at you, you must be relentless and never give up.
Always strive to be better, always be willing to face your challenges with a smile on your face, and even if you feel like you are going through hell, just keep going.
3. Your Challenges Make You Who You Need to Become
The things in life that you often despise the most are the things that are turning you into the man you need to become to achieve your destiny.
The lessons you learned from that nasty divorce that you had is what will equip you to be the man you need to be for the woman of your dreams and your future family.
That business failure you had with your first startup is what will equip you with the knowledge and skillset you need to succeed at your next venture.
The challenges and failures you are facing in life are truly a gift and a blessing, not a curse.
Choose to see them that way.
4. Give Up Your Need for Perfection
Perfection is a myth.
If you are constantly striving to be perfect, you will forfeit your ability to be great.
You will become stressed and overwhelmed and cripple your ability to perform.
Instead of trying to be perfect, simply try and wake up each day being a little bit better than you were the day before.
If you do this consistently instead of striving for perfection, you will be amazed at who you are and what you have achieved 5 years from now.
5. Ground Yourself at the Beginning of Each Day
One of the most powerful ways to begin your day is to get yourself grounded.
If you are religious this could mean that you pray, meditate on your spiritual text, and spend some time thanking God for all you have in your life.
If you are not, then simply meditating, spending time in nature, slowing down, and being grateful is all you need to do.
When you start your day off in this way, you will be amazed at what you can achieve.