If you’ve ever wanted to learn how to build a successful real estate business or simply get an inside look inside the mind of an entrepreneurial prodigy…this interview with Jaelin White will give you everything you want and more.
Not only is Jaelin the youngest person I’ve ever had on the show, but he’s also one of the most successful.
Over the past few years, he went from a no-name kid from Arizona to one of the biggest real estate influencers in the industry with a multi-million dollar business, partnership with Tai Lopez, and (of course) a sweet Lambo.
I promise, you’ll be blown away by this interview.
Jaelin White is a 19-year-old entrepreneur and real estate investor who turned a $180 investment into over $33,000 in roughly two months in one of the most competitive housing markets in the country.
Jaelin now earns multiple six figures a year, is mentored by high-level entrepreneurs like Tai Lopez and is happily married to his wife Brianna.
“The master has failed more times than the beginner has ever tried” ~Stephen McCraine
1. The Best Investment You Can Make is in Yourself
One of the immutable and irrefutable laws of success is that to achieve anything great, you must first invest in yourself and become the kind of man with the skillsets and character traits required to reach your goals.
There is no way around it. To achieve great things, you must be willing to invest heavily in your personal and professional growth.
An investment in a stock or real estate property might make you some money, but an investment in your own growth and education can make you a fortune.
You’re only one idea, one connection, or one lesson away from changing your life forever so pull out all the stops and do whatever it takes to become the man you need to be.
Whether this means attending seminars, hiring a coach, purchasing online courses or even just reading books written by some of the brightest minds in your industry, success requires a ruthless investment in your personal development.
Attend local masterminds, get a library card and check out every (recommended) book on your industry, find a mentor in your area and offer to work for free in exchange for their wisdom and guidance.
The long term return on these investments is incalculable.
To this day Tony Robbins still claims that the $35 he invested into a seminar with Jim Rohn was the greatest investment he ever made.
2. You Need to Build Your Board of Directors
There is an old saying that you are the average of the five people with whom you spend the most time with, and truer words have never been spoken.
If you want to elevate your life in every way, in your health, your relationships, your finances, and your personal growth, then you need to surround yourself with people who will push you and encourage you to succeed.
Seek out mentors and friends who are achieving on a higher level than you who are willing to call you out on your failures and lift you up for your successes.
When you surround yourself with other high-achievers, you’ll subconsciously start to pick up on their patterns and behaviors. You’ll learn how to speak the “language of winners”, you’ll see their habits and rituals firsthand and you’ll get an insiders look at how the top 1% really think and behave.
Virtual coaches and mentors are a good start, but nothing beats extreme exposure to individuals playing the game at a higher level than you are today.
Once you build this infrastructure of support and accountability, your life will radically transform in way you can’t possibly imagine.
3. You Have to Make the Definite Decision to Succeed
The only thing separating you from your wildest dreams and ambitions is that you have not yet made the definite decision to achieve them.
Once you look yourself in the mirror and say, “Enough is enough! I will achieve my goals come hell or high water. I will do whatever it takes and will not rest until I am a success.” then nothing can stop you.
While it might sound overly simplistic, it’s the truth. Once you make a definite decision, everything changes.
The trick is that you must make this decision from a place of certainty. Most people ‘want’ success. But want is not nearly enough. You must be willing to pay the price of admission and do the hard work required to achieve the outcomes you want.
The simple truth is that almost anyone, anywhere in the world can achieve 10X more success than they are today (at least, if you live in a developed country with access to the internet and a modicum of freedom). But most people aren’t willing to do what it takes to achieve the goals they claim to want.
So take a hard look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, “Am I willing to suffer for this goal? Am I willing to bleed, sweat, and cry to make this happen?”
Until the answer is a resounding “hell yes!”, you cannot and will not make the decision to succeed.
4. Focus on Revenue Generating Activities
One of the simplest habits that you can start implementing today is to shift all of your focus towards revenue-generating activities.
Plain and simple, if it is not going to earn you money, then don’t do it.
Too many “wantrepreneurs” focus on vanity metrics like followers, likes, and engagement. But none of these things matter. The only thing that matters are the activities that push the envelope forward and put money in your pocket.
If there are tasks that need to be done that do not directly result in the generation of revenue, then outsource them so that you have more time to work on building your cash flow.
The more you focus on profits, the faster your business will grow.
Jim Wolfe is a coach and author who helps men live life without regret, build genuine confidence, achieve fulfillment and true success, and have satisfying relationships.
He is obsessed with reading, writing, learning, travel, and personal growth. He draws on a tremendous variety of sources to create effective educational experiences.
He is also the author of Level Up and Attract Her and Keep Her.
“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value” ~Albert Einstein
1. Focus on Internal Fulfillment Not External Success
One of the biggest mistakes that most men make is that their primary focus is on external success and not internal fulfillment.
They try and derive their sense of satisfaction from the women they sleep with, the cars they drive, or the number of 0’s in their bank account instead of defining success for themselves and living out a life that is true to who they are.
Instead of focusing on achievement, start to focus on being someone of value, someone who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to step out into the world and take it.
Focus more on the man that you are becoming than the things you are achieving.
Because at the end of the day, if you become a man of integrity, honor, grit, and discipline, the external success will fall into place.
2. Success in Relationships is About Adding Value
If you want to succeed with women, then you need to completely change your mindset.
You have to shift away from the societal preconditioning that women only want good looks, money, and status and realize that the best way to seduce a woman is to provide value by being your authentic self.
If you are someone she loves to be around, someone who can listen, inject humor, and provide a strong grounded base for her to trust, then it doesn’t matter how much money you have, what car you drive, or what you look like.
Women want men who add value to their lives, not men who try and impress them with external “stuff”.
3. You Must Cultivate a High Sense of Internal Value and Strength
In the initial phases of attraction, success with women is dependent on a few key factors.
The first, and most important factors are a high level of internal value and strength.
But what does that really mean?
Having a high level of internal value means that you value yourself more than any woman or relationship. It means that you are content to continue living your life with or without your significant other because your sense of self-worth comes from inside of you and not from a woman.
Internal strength, on the other hand, is your ability to display to women that you are a strong grounded man who is not reactive to or dependent upon the actions of others.
This is one of the reasons that women will often test men. It’s not because they want to get under your skin, it’s because they want to test you and see if you are strong enough to hold frame and respond to their tests in a non-reactive and grounded manner.
4. If You Want to Succeed with Women, Have them Chase You
Have you ever heard the saying that “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”?
Well, this is especially true with women and dating. Women want to see that the man they are pursuing is busy. They want to see that he has a life outside of her and is pursuing goals outside of their relationship.
Therefore, one of the keys to success during the early phases of attraction is to limit your availability.
If you are only able to go out with a woman that you are seeing once or twice a month, they will respect your time, be more excited to see you, and place more value on the time that they do have with you.
Be intentional about your availability and the women in your life will be even more attracted to you.
5. To Keep Your Woman You Must Give Her Positive Attention and Respect
Once you have attracted a woman and have decided to settle in for a relationship, the game has completely changed.
Seduction and relationships are two completely different things.
Whenever you are in a relationship, one of the biggest keys to maintaining that relationship is that you show your woman positive attention and respect.
This means that you are willing to pause the football game and talk with her about her day. It means that you build her up in public and hold your temper when you fight.
It means that you start to value her on a deeper level and are willing to put some of your hobbies (not your dreams and passions) on hold to satisfy her needs.
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Dr. Ernhard Vogel, Ph.D, was born in Germany at the height of World War II, struggling to survive in the war-torn country.
After immigrating to America, Dr. Vogel became obsessed with self-realization and mastery.
Now, he runs a yoga, meditation, and self-realization center where he guides people through life’s challenging questions and helps them uncover the answers already within themselves.
He is the author of the book, The Four Gates and a coach and speaker at Nataraja Meditation Center in San Diego.
“May you find yourself sufficiently worthy to become attentive to yourself and to relate to yourself in full power and love that you deserve.”
1. Live Your Life As an Expert
One of the biggest mistakes that we make in our lives is that we try to become an expert at everything except for life.
We try and master our hobbies, our professions, our relationships, and our bodies, but we never try and master the art of living.
The art of being in the moment and living life as you.
I know that this may sound a little bit metaphysical and woo-woo, but you need to realize that one of the most essential parts of life is to become an expert at living.
Learn to savor each moment and be.
Become an expert at the art of life.
2. Just Be
We are so caught up in so many different things in our life that we often forget to appreciate our lives, to just live in the moment, to just be.
True fulfillment comes from living your life, not from achievement.
Start making a conscious effort to just be.
Appreciate the colors in the park, appreciate the beauty of the people in your life, notice the tastes of your food, enjoy each moment fully and watch your life transform.
3. Realize that Your Senses Are Distracting You
We live in a society that thrives upon sensory distractions.
We walk around every day in a constant state of stimulation with advertisements and technology vying for our attention, drawing us away from what is truly important.
As you set upon your journey or “living expertly” you must learn to minimize your sensory distractions.
Take time alone to just be, get out in nature, or spend time with close friends.
Focus on living your life and not on the number of Facebook likes your latest selfie is generating.
4. Success is Internal not External
In the Western world, our happiness is contingent upon external validation.
Whether it is the hot wife, the fast car, the big house, or the bank account with six zeroes in it, our happiness and fulfillment are based upon factors outside of ourselves.
This is why the majority of the population is depressed, anxious, and (frankly) miserable.
If you want to achieve true fulfillment, then realize that happiness is internal.
If you are a part of the Knowledge for Men community and have the technology to read this article, then you already have everything that you need to live a happy and fulfilled life.
You are not fighting for your life, wondering where your next meal will come from, or witnessing the murder of your loved ones during a violent dictatorship.
Therefore, you have everything you need to be fulfilled already inside of you.
Stop worrying about the accolades and the
5. Accept that Death is a Part of Life
You cannot truly live a full and adventurous life without accepting that you are going to die.
Everything that you love and everything that you have built will one day end.
And what’s funny is that this should not be seen as a negative thing.
The fact that everything comes to an end makes every second more precious, it allows you to live fully without fear, knowing that no matter how many mistakes you make or how many times you fail, the consequences are never as severe as you feared.
Accept the inevitability of death and you will be empowered to live your life with a freedom you had never known.
If you want to learn how to transform your life, optimize your performance, and become unstoppable…this interview will help you do it. I sit down with world-renowned biohacker and marketer extraordinaire Anthony DiClementi to discuss all things biohacking, success, and personal transformation.
And I promise, if you’ll take action on the lessons he shares, you can use the wisdom contained in this interview to change your life forever.
Anthony DiClementi is an executive health and fitness coach, biohacker, and expert in functional medicine.
He is the most sought after fat loss expert for people who want to regularly enjoy more of their favorite cheat foods, wine, and cocktails without storing them as fat.
He is known for teaching people how to lose 7 pounds in 7 days* and utilize strategic cheating to accelerate fat loss while still enjoying a social lifestyle.
Anthony is a Certified Nutrition Specialist (CNS), NCSF Certified Personal Trainer, and “certified” Party Guy (Restaurant/Bar/Nightclub Marketer) from Chicago, IL.
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” ~Theodore Roosevelt
1. Think Less Do More
So many people who are involved in the world of personal development make the critical mistake of absorbing too much information without taking the requisite action that makes that information valuable.
If you are not where you want to be in your life despite the books, online courses, and seminars, then stop what you are doing right now and go take some freaking action.
Don’t read another book about fitness, go to the damn gym and lift some weights.
Don’t watch videos on pickup, go talk to the next pretty girl you see.
Quit watching Shark Tank and go take the first step to starting your own business.
The simple truth is that success is hard. It takes time, patience, failure, and iteration. You will never get it right on the first go and the more time you spend thinking and analyzing your goals and vision, the less time you’ll spend actually moving the needle forward and making progress.
So commit to taking action. Take the first step today and realize that you can learn what you need to learn along the way.
Go pick up a barbell and do some deadlifts. Once you’re in the gym consistently, then you can worry about rep scheme, time under tension, and supplementation.
Go talk to the next attractive woman you see. Once you start interacting with women in the real world, you’ll gain a better understanding of your strengths and weaknesses and can learn how to improve your interactions with women from there.
Go launch your website and start building your email list. Once you have taken action, you’ll figure out the lessons you really need to scale to the next level.
2. How You Feel Doesn’t Matter
If you only do what you feel like doing, you will never accomplish anything great in your life.
There will be times where you don’t want to work, put time into your relationships, or go to the gym.
But guess what?
It doesn’t matter, if you want to succeed, you have to control your emotions and not allow them to control you.
Remember that motion creates emotion.
Even if you don’t feel like working, as soon as you sit down to work, you will become motivated.
As soon as you set foot in the gym, you will find yourself more energized and alive.
Your feelings are fleeting. They are a fickle mistress that will abandon you when you need them most and attack you when you expect them the least. To accomplish great things, you must learn to take action despite your emotions. You must learn to overcome the way you feel and focus on what you value.
Your mission, your goals, and your life are more important than how you feel in the moment. And the more you can learn to act in alignment with your values instead of your feelings, the better and more successful your life will be.
3. You Need Someone Who Has Achieved What You Want
If you want to achieve the highest levels of success, you need a coach or mentor.
There’s no way around it.
No way great has ever succeeded without someone smarter and more talented then them guiding their path and advising them on the best course of action.
If you are overweight despite going to the gym and eating well, hire a coach who can show you where you are taking improper action so you can achieve your dream body.
If your life is going downhill quickly despite your best efforts, hire a coach who can help you to achieve your goals and who can point out your blindspots and weaknesses and help you overcome them.
When you have objective outside eyes on your life from people who have “been there, done that”, you won’t have to wonder if you’re doing the right things. You will know you are on the path to success and you’ll be able to take massive and strategic action toward achieving the life you’ve always wanted.
4. Success Starts with Your Mindset and Your Routines
The key to success starts in your mind and is then translated into your routines.
If you can show me someone’s routines, I will show you their outcomes and their levels of success in every area of life.
To succeed, you must develop rock-solid routines to ensure that you can achieve at the highest level.
This means creating a morning routine, exercising regularly, spending time around people who are smarter then you are, and educating yourself on a daily basis.
There is no way around it, your routines and mindset determine the quality of your life.
5. If You Want to Transform Your Life Start with Your Health
If you really want to transform your life, start with your health.
If you have more energy, a more balanced body, and higher cognitive function, everything else will start to fall into place.
You will be sharper at work, more motivated, more fluid in social situations, and, of course, a helluva lot sexier.
Your body is your home, take care of it and don’t take it for granted.
Erik Newton is a former family law attorney, and founder of Together Magazine and The Together Show Podcast. Erik describes himself as someone who’s “been through a thousand divorces and still believes in love.”
Ushering couples through divorce was never pleasant, but it turned out to be the ideal medium through which to understand the entire lifecycle of a relationship. As a result, Erik has a unique, real-world comprehension of what makes one marriage thrive and another fall apart.
During his time as an attorney, Erik teamed up with a psychologist friend to lead premarital courses for couples, hoping to give them the skills they’d need to stay out of his office.
Ultimately, his calling to help couples build healthy relationships superseded his legal career, and he decided to dedicate himself full-time to creating a place couples could go for information, inspiration, and a big dose of truth. That’s whenTogether.Guide was born.
“If you don’t ask, it’s an automatic no”
1. There is Only the Present Moment
It is so easy to get caught up in our past mistakes and future worries.
Most of us are living our lives in a reality that does not really exist, we spend all of our time thinking about mistakes that we made in the past and our plans and fears for the future.
If you want to truly be happy, if you want to truly have fulfilling relationships and you want to see your life transform before your eyes, then see every moment as the beginning.
Right now, this very second, you have a choice.
It’s not about what you did or what you are going to do in the future, it is about who you are deciding to be in this present moment.
Always remember that this is the most important decision that you can make.
2. Compassion is Essential in Every Stage of Your Relationships
One of the biggest mistakes that most couples make whenever they are going through a challenging time or approaching the end of a relationship is that they lose the compassion they once had for their partner.
You need to always approach your partner with a level of empathy and understanding, no matter how badly they have hurt you or what they have done to you.
Because if you do not, you will only be poisoning your own life and cutting off any possibility of a relationship with that person, platonic or otherwise.
3. When Something is Not Working, Get Excited
It is so easy to get depressed and down on yourself when something is not working in your relationship.
Whether you are afraid things are going to end or you are simply losing the passion that you once had, whenever you start to face a struggle in your relationship, it is time to get excited.
Because if something is not working, then you have the chance to either end the relationship and move onto something better or dive even deeper in your relationship with your partner as you overcome this new obstacle.
Just like challenges in life are a chance for you to grow as a man, challenges in relationships are a chance for you to grow with your partner.
4. View Every Major Break Up as a Chance to Learn
Anytime you suffer from a major breakup, whether with a girlfriend or a divorce with a wife, you need to realize that this is nothing more than a chance for you to learn.
See it as a privilege that you had the breakup.
Because now you are a stronger, more grounded, and more knowledgeable man who knows what he wants moving forward.
Never suffer through any major life event without taking time to figure out what you can learn and how you can change things moving forward.
5. If You Want to Save Your Relationships Remember Money, Sex, & Kids
The three things that cause more relational strife than anything else are money, sex, and children.
And it’s not necessarily the actual problems with money, sex, and children, it is the expectations that each partner has about these topics that are unspoken.
If you do not want children and your woman does, this needs to be addressed before you get married.
If your girlfriend is buried in debt from college then this is something you need to talk about before you move on to the next level.
Whatever your sexual expectations and fantasies are, they need to be addressed and discussed with your significant other.
Before you move to a new level in your relationships, make sure that these three areas are discussed and agreed upon, otherwise, you will face more stress than you ever thought possible.
Part of the new generation of spiritual visionaries and thought leaders, Derek Rydall is the author of the #1 Amazon/Barnes & Noble best-seller EMERGENCE: Seven Steps for Radical Life Change and the world’s #1 expert on the revolutionary Law of Emergence.
He has trained top executives at Fortune 500 companies (from American Express to Disney) in empowered leadership and communications, and has coached celebrities and media professionals, including Oscar and Emmy winners, on creating conscious entertainment.
“What is before us and what is behind us are small matters compared to what is inside us”
“We must remove our bloated sense of nothingness out of the way of the divine circuits” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
1. Let Go of Your Ego
Just like Ryan Holiday said, ego truly is the enemy.
You need to realize that you are not your ego. Your ego is simply a childish part of you that feels the need to be validated through sex, money, and other empty accolades.
If you want to live a life of true fulfillment, then you must first let go of your ego and your need for validation.
Be willing to accept yourself as you are and pursue a life that is based on what you truly want and not your egotistical need for validation.
2. You Have Everything You Need to Succeed Within You
So many people think that everything they need to succeed is outside of them.
This simply isn’t true.
If you want to succeed in your life and do the things that you dream of, everything you need is inside of you. You simply have to peel back all of the bullsh!t until you unlock the power within you that was always lying hidden away.
You have everything you need to succeed.
You have the drive, the discipline, the compassion, the skills, everything. You just have to get rid of all the societal conditioning and external expectations to achieve it.
3. You Cannot Improve Upon the Self Just Your Skills
You can’t improve upon the self.
You can only develop new skills and improve aspects of your personality and skillset, but you cannot improve upon the self.
While this might sound like an overly spiritual statement, once you understand its validity, your life will never be the same.
You can stop wasting time trying to make yourself better and improve who you are, and instead, you can focus your efforts on improving the aspects of your character and skill sets that are lacking.
Life is not about accumulating possessions but about how much you possess yourself.
If you want to succeed and live a fulfilled life, then you have to know yourself.
Know who you are, know what you want, know your truth.
Not what society says you are are, not what your parents say, and not what any religion says. Know who you say you are and who you want to be.
5. Where There is No Vision You Will Perish
If you do not have a vision, your life will amount to nothing at the end of the day.
You have to have a vision for your life, an ultimate goal of who you want to become and who you want to help.
Who do you want to be, who do you want to help, and what you want to achieve.
Once you have a vision you can build your life around this.
Professionally, Alicia M. Smith is an Award-Winning Author who most recently released the book Common Stones, and Special Project Consultant at Public Consulting Group, in Nashville, TN. She has obtained a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology from Wayne State University, as well as a Master of Arts degree in Industrial/Organizational Psychology from Xavier University.
“Every no gets me closer to my yes” ~Robert D. Smith
1. Success is in Our Decisions Not Our Conclusions
Many people think that success is about the attainment of something, but the truth is, success is about who you become along the way and the decisions that you make.
Who would you consider a success?
The man who achieved his goal of making a million dollars in a year but did it in an unethical way or the man who was presented with the opportunity to make a million unethically but stuck to his guns and did what he knew was right?
I think we both know the answer.
Success is truly about living a life with honor and integrity, not any material outcome.
2. Be Relentless
There is an old quote from Winston Churchill that summarizes this concept succinctly but brilliantly.
If you are going through hell, keep going
It doesn’t matter how difficult life is or what challenges the world may through at you, you must be relentless and never give up.
Always strive to be better, always be willing to face your challenges with a smile on your face, and even if you feel like you are going through hell, just keep going.
3. Your Challenges Make You Who You Need to Become
The things in life that you often despise the most are the things that are turning you into the man you need to become to achieve your destiny.
The lessons you learned from that nasty divorce that you had is what will equip you to be the man you need to be for the woman of your dreams and your future family.
That business failure you had with your first startup is what will equip you with the knowledge and skillset you need to succeed at your next venture.
The challenges and failures you are facing in life are truly a gift and a blessing, not a curse.
Choose to see them that way.
4. Give Up Your Need for Perfection
Perfection is a myth.
If you are constantly striving to be perfect, you will forfeit your ability to be great.
You will become stressed and overwhelmed and cripple your ability to perform.
Instead of trying to be perfect, simply try and wake up each day being a little bit better than you were the day before.
If you do this consistently instead of striving for perfection, you will be amazed at who you are and what you have achieved 5 years from now.
5. Ground Yourself at the Beginning of Each Day
One of the most powerful ways to begin your day is to get yourself grounded.
If you are religious this could mean that you pray, meditate on your spiritual text, and spend some time thanking God for all you have in your life.
If you are not, then simply meditating, spending time in nature, slowing down, and being grateful is all you need to do.
When you start your day off in this way, you will be amazed at what you can achieve.
Jennifer Noel Taylor is the “Chief Magical Officer” of Quantum-Touch, Inc. – A community dedicated to Spiritual growth. Quantum-Touch helps people facilitate their physical, emotional and spiritual healing through energy medicine.
In her debut book, Love Incorporated: The Business of Doing What You Love, she shares her journey as a young professional, feeling extremely depressed at her 9-5 job, to finding her true calling and living the life of her dreams!
“You can fail at what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance doing what you love.” ~Jim Carey
1. Taking Time Away is Not the End
Often times in life, we need to separate ourselves from our current situations.
Whether it is a job, a relationship, or even just a physical location that it tying you down, everyone will have a point in their life where they need to “escape” to uncover more about themselves to truly become their best selves.
But we are scared.
We are afraid that it will result in catastrophic failure if things don’t pan out.
But the truth is, even if we don’t achieve the goals we had set, the lessons you learn while away will equip you to achieve more when you come back to your old life.
If you take a sabbatical from work to travel, you will return more grounded, more focused, and more passionate, and employers know this.
If you take some time away from a relationship to focus on your own personal growth, you will come back as a more present, conscious, and compassionate lover, and most women know this.
Don’t be afraid to take time away from the good so that you can return to the great.
2. Be Authentic
Life is short, so why would you waste it being anyone other than who you are.
Almost all of us live our lives behind a mask. We perform on the stage of life to impress people and show them that we are like everyone else.
But the hard truth is, the world doesn’t need more cookie cutter people.
It needs more people who are fearlessly embracing their authentic selves, people who are pursuing a life of excellence and uniqueness.
Forget about being like everyone else.
The world has plenty of copycats. Be yourself, be authentic, and allow the universe to use that for greatness.
3. The Universe Will not Hand You Anything
So many of us believe in the “Secret” that if we just write down our goals and put them out to the universe that we will achieve every dream that we have, but the truth is much more different.
The universe will conspire with you to help you achieve your goals, but you must put in the work.
You have to grind and hustle and sweat and bleed.
There is no other way to achieve success.
Put your goals out to the universe and then work your butt off to achieve them.
Then and only then will the universe open up to help you.
4. Trust Yourself
One of the hardest things in life is to trust yourself, to believe in yourself, and to stick to your values even when the rest of the world steers you in another direction.
But if you want to succeed and live the most fulfilling life possible, then you must learn to trust yourself.
Trust your gut, trust your intuition, trust yourself.
If you feel called to do something, then do it, no matter what other people say.
And remember, you can fail doing something that you don’t like so go ahead and take a chance on something you love.
5. Challenges are An Opportunity for Growth
So many people view challenges as a bad thing.
They think that challenging situations are a curse.
But the thing is, challenges are an opportunity.
They are an opportunity for you to grow into your strongest self, to prove what you are made of, and to overcome obstacles that others deem as impossible.
Never view challenges as a negative thing.
They are what makes this life worth living and what separates the boys from the men.
Cash Matthews has been in the financial business and worked with countless families and individuals since the 1980’s.
During his adult life, he has worked entirely with just one ambition: to help people succeed with their finances and have a happy life! He believes the pressure of a poorly constructed financial life can also have a negative impact on your health and your family.
He is the author of several books including Money University and the Solomon Way.
“Don’t do stupid stuff and you will be fine” ~Cash’s Grandmother
1. Forget the Joneses. They Are Broke
In today’s material-focused society, you see so many people focused on keeping up with the Joneses.
The problem is, the Joneses are completely broke and are living their lives based upon the desire to look good for everyone else, often at the expense of their health, financial well-being, and ultimate success.
If you want to succeed at anything in your life, then forget about the Joneses.
You don’t need the fancy car, expensive watch, or flashy toys, spend your money on experiences, on your family, and on living a lifestyle that makes you happy.
Don’t spend it on getting into a meaningless competition with shallow and materialistic people.
2. You Have to Figure Out What You Want
One of the reasons that so many people struggle to save and make money is that they don’t really know what they want.
They have no vision for themselves and their lives, they have no why behind going to work and saving money.
And “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”
So if you are struggling to make or keep the amount of money that you want, then start with why.
Figure out what you want out of life and figure out how much money you will need to make it happen, then start taking the steps necessary to get there.
3. Get a Little Bit of Perspective
Whenever you think you have it bad, whenever you are stressed, whenever you are struggling, just remember that you are beyond fortunate.
If you have the ability to read this article or listen to this podcast right now, then you are in the top 10% in the world. Even if you are poor in the U.S., you are not truly poor compared to the rest of the world.
Once you can get this perspective on your life, then you can completely change your outlook on financial stress and the problems that you are facing.
4. Pay Yourself First & Take Care of Your Taxes
If you want a quick, down and dirty tip for achieving more financial freedom, here it is.
Pay yourself 10% out of every paycheck that you make and ensure that the government is not taking more than their fair share out of your paycheck.
According to the IRS nearly 80% of all people are voluntarily overpaying on their taxes.
This means that you could be saving thousands of dollars a year by simply hiring an accountant and sitting down for an afternoon.
If you can reclaim the money that is rightfully yours and start paying yourself first, your financial future will never be the same.
5. Action Cures Everything
Plain and simple, no matter what you are facing in life right now, action is the cure all.
Broke? Start mowing lawns, delivering pizzas, and working overtime.
Socially shy and miserable? Get out and meet new people, talk to strangers, and approach beautiful women at social events.
Fat? Get off the couch and get into the gym.
I don’t care what you are struggling with, action will cure it.
Plain and simple.
David Carlson is the founder of the personal finance blog Young Adult Money.
Young Adult Money is focused on helping those in their 20s and 30s make more, save more, and live better. Forbes magazine has called Young Adult Money one of the best websites for people looking to get their finances in check.
David works in corporate finance at a major US corporation and is the author of Hustle Away Debt.
“Work like someone else is working 24 hours a day to take everything from you” ~Gary Vaynerchuk
1. Build your Side Hustle Around Your Life
Most people I know want to build side hustles.
They want to have more financial freedom, more time to spend with their family, and more security around their ability to provide for themselves and their families.
But they think it will be too much work.
The truth is, you can start building a side hustle with only a couple of hours a day. Just give up your nightly episode of Narcos and work on a writing or FBA business.
You will be amazed where it will take you in only a few months.
2. Developing a Side Hustle will Improve Every Area of Your Life
Something that many people do not realize is just how significantly a side hustle can change your life.
Whenever you learn to generate income on your own terms, you will have less financial stress, you will have more confidence in yourself, and more time to devote to the things you love.
You don’t have to worry about quitting your 9-5 either. Your side hustle is just the beginning and is meant as a way to supplement your income, get you out of debt, and generate extra cash to put aside in savings.
3. Figure Out What Skills You Already Have that You Can Charge For
The first step to succeeding at your side hustle is to figure out what skills you have that you can charge for.
And before you say that you don’t have any, let me cut that belief down right now.
If you can write, take pictures, manage spreadsheets, teach an instrument, are good with girls, or know how to plan a trip abroad, then you have the skills necessary to start a side hustle.
But it’s up to you to determine what skills you have, develop the skills that you want to have, and then seek out clients who will pay you for them.
4. If You Want it You Will Get It
Everyone says that they want financial freedom, but few people are actually willing to take the steps necessary to get it.
They would rather go out with friends, play video games, watch TV, or sit in front of their computer watching porn.
If you want financial freedom, if you want to quit your 9-5, if you want to develop a side hustle that gives you the ability to pursue a life on your terms, then you will go out and get it.
End of story.
5. Don’t be Afraid to Fail
If you execute your side hustle properly, there is no need to be afraid of failure.
Keep your 9-5, don’t take huge risks, and devote only a few hours to your side hustle a week.
If you fail, there will be no real damage except for a few lost hours.
You will still have your job, still have your family, and you will have learned some valuable lessons.
There is nothing to be afraid of, so go out there and get after it.
Dr. Michelle DiBiase, a graduate of Georgia State University and Life College of Chiropractic, has been in private practice with her husband since 1999.
Through the years, they have helped thousands of sufferers feel better again and adopt healthy lifestyle habits for whole-body healing. When confronted with chronic pain patients, Dr. DiBiase discovered that clinical findings did not always match the patient’s symptoms and that hidden, deep-rooted emotions were often involved.
From that discovery, she developed the POP Method, a simple, step-by-step approach that anyone could use to address those hidden, anchored feelings and relieve their pain.
Dr. DiBiase has dedicated herself to helping others find their power and to reach their highest potential. She lives in Waycross, Georgia, with her loving husband, John, and her two beautiful daughters, Ruby and Isabelle.
“If you change the way you look at things, the thing you look at change” ~Dr. Wayne Dyer
1. Your Emotional Struggles Can Cause Physical Pain
When most people are struggling with pain, they fail to realize that often times, their pain is caused by a mental or emotional problem and not a physical problem.
This could stem from childhood trauma, a tragic event, or simply personal insecurity.
Whatever the case, you need to accept that your pain may not be a physical ailment and be willing to do the internal work necessary to fix it.
2. Identify What Your Key Emotions Are Causing Your Pain
If you have come to the conclusion that your pain is being caused by your emotional state, the first step that you need to take is to identify which emotions are leading to the pain.
Examine your life, both past, and present, for any potential traumas that might be leading to physical issues.
This does not have to be something big either.
It could simply be a belief that your genetics leave you predisposed for a certain ailment, something you were told when you were younger, or an insecurity that you developed about yourself.
Be willing to take a long look at yourself and uncover exactly where the pain is coming from because until you do, you will not be able to fix it.
3. Reframe Your Pain and Become Grateful
Once you have uncovered the emotional anchors that are holding you down, you need to reframe them and find a way to be grateful for them.
The simple truth is, it is hard to be in pain when you are in a state of gratitude and love.
Whatever past pain or hurt you are suffering from, there is something within it to be grateful for.
Even the most traumatic and terrible events that you have faced have a silver lining.
Whether they have simply molded you into a stronger person or allowed you to speak love into someone’s life who faced a similar struggle, you can always find a reason to be grateful.
4.Decide Whether Your Emotions Are Serving You
Before the final step in the healing process can take place, you must examine your emotions and decide whether or not they are serving you on the path to becoming your strongest self.
Is the anger, grief, bitterness, or self-loathing adding anything to your life?
Is it making you a better, stronger, or more grounded man?
Examine your emotions without bias and be brutally honest with yourself.
You can never truly move on until you are willing to remove the mask and be vulnerable with yourself and others.
5. Release the Pain
Once you have built a sense of gratitude for your struggles and developed a clear list of reasons why your current emotional state is no longer empowering you, it is time to release the pain.
Let it go.
Accept it for what it was.
Be grateful for how it helped you become the man you are, but accept that you no longer need it in your life and let it go.
Mark Manson is a blogger, author, and entrepreneur. He specializes in writing personal development advice that doesn’t suck. His website MarkManson.net is read by over 2 million people each month.
He has written two best-sellers Models: The Art of Attracting Women Through Honesty and The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counter-Intuitive Approach to Living a Good Life. markmanson.netYou can connect with him and learn more at
1. There is No Such Thing as a Problem Free Life
Life is not easy, anyone who tells you otherwise is full of crap.
Life can suck sometimes and that is just the reality.
However, you should not see this as a bad thing, in fact, you should appreciate it.
If life is going to be painful no matter what, this means that you have a choice to choose what kind of pain you want to endure.
You can endure the pain of failure or you can endure the pain of struggling to achieve success.
2. Pain Isn’t Always Bad Pleasure Isn’t Always Good
Something that most people misunderstand is that pain is not always a bad thing and pleasure is not always a good thing.
You can achieve pleasure by purchasing mounds of cocaine and heroin, but that would not be expedient for achieving your goals and living the life that you want.
You can also be in pain by pursuing your goals and trying to achieve greatness but this is not necessarily a bad thing.
Accept the fact that life is not about being in a constant state of euphoria, it is about overcoming challenges and living a life of meaning.
3. Your Behaviors Dictate Your Values
Whenever you ask people what they value they will tell you all sorts of things and about how they value family, fitness, or personal growth.
However, their actions say otherwise.
They say that they value family but they spend all of their time working.
They say they value health but workout only once a month and treat their body like sh!t.
Maybe they even say that they don’t value their sex life and yet they are out every week trying to get with a new girl.
If you want to know what you truly value, take a look at your actions.
Be willing to examine yourself and your life without any bias or judgment and make changes accordingly.
If you don’t you will spend your whole life spinning your wheel and accomplishing very little.
4. A Constant Pursuit of Happiness Leads to Dissatisfaction
Most self-help movements in the modern world seem hell bent on helping people achieve this constant state of euphoria.
But the sad fact is, by pursuing happiness, you actually make yourself less happy.
In every moment, you are always wondering “Am I as happy as I could be right now? What more could I be doing?” and you end up feeling depressed and frustrated because you are not happier.
The same is true with your physique, bank account, and game.
If you are constantly trying to be the absolute best, you will never be able to appreciate where you are.
Learn to just accept that you may not be the richest, best looking, or most charismatic man in the room and work with that.
Accept yourself for who you are and work to improve in the areas that are truly lacking.
Otherwise, you will be like a dog chasing its tail and end up living a miserable life.
5. You are Going to Die
This is one of the most important things to remember in your life.
No matter what you achieve, not matter how much money you make, who you marry, or how many people’s lives you affect, at the end of the day you are going to die.
There is no way around it.
Death is the only constant in every human being’s life.
But this should not depress or scare you.
It should liberate you.
The inevitability of death means that you can free yourself from the expectations of others, the drama of daily life, and the fear that accompanies big decisions.
If you are going to die, then all that matter is the legacy that you leave behind you.
Remember this and live life to the fullest.
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After losing his father to suicide at the age of 18, Paul became driven to make a difference in the world by helping men handle their emotions and cope with the stresses of the world.
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“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” ~Wayne Dyer
1.Stop Settling and Start Living
Life is not a game that you can play by sitting on the sidelines.
Waking up every single day and going to the same job, eating the same food, and following the same boring routine is not living, it’s barely even existing.
If you want to be the happiest person that you can be, then you have to take risks, you have to get in the arena, and you have to get a little bloody.
Step out on a limb, take a chance, do the things that scare you, have an adventure. LIVE!
Because if you don’t, life will pass you by and you will come to the end of the day wondering what went wrong.
2. Self Awareness is the Key to Success and Happiness
One of the reasons that so many men in the world right now are depressed and suicidal is that they are not self aware.
They get inside their heads and live there permanently.
They don’t ever get their problems out onto paper or spend time trying to understand who they are and what really makes them tick.
They don’t ever truly live because they are so unaware of who they really are that they simply accept whatever role society has assigned them.
If you want to succeed in life and live with genuine joy, you must understand yourself.
You must know who you are, what you value, what you love, and what makes you come alive.
3. You Have to Face Your Problems
Another big mistake that many men make that often leads to depression and suicide is that they refuse to address the problems in their lives.
Maybe they lost family as a child, they were abused, faced a traumatic break up, or were hurt in some other way.
Most men bury these issues deep beneath the ground and put on a facade saying “I’m fine” when, in reality, they are dying inside.
You cannot go through life carrying these burdens on your back.
You need to face your demons and slay them so that you can live a life of freedom and love.
4.You Cannot Dot it Alone
Newsflash men, you are not Superman.
No one great ever did anything alone.
Everyone who accomplished something of note was willing to admit that they didn’t know it all and, more importantly, they were willing to ask for help.
If you want to succeed, if you want to play in the big leagues and live a life worth remembering, then you have to swallow your pride and ask for help.
Whether you need to hire a coach, a counselor, or simply a consultant for your business, you need help, and every second you spend fighting this fact is another second that pulls you away from greatness.
5. Knowledge is Nothing Without Action
You can read every self-help book you want, you can go to all the seminars, and you can spend every last dollar on a high-performance coach, but unless you take action on your new knowledge you will not achieve anything.
The only way that knowledge has power is if you apply it.
So make it your goal, not to learn more, but to take more action on what you have learned.
If you read a book, take action on something you learned that day.
If you hire a coach, take action on the call as soon as you hang up.
If you go to a seminar, follow everything you are told to do immediately after you leave.
Joshua Hathaway, M.A. Holistic Clinical Psychology, is a Tongue Fu black belt and master of the Art of Connection.
Through his private and organizational training in No Bullsh!t Communication, as well as coaching and consulting, Joshua is radically empowering people’s success in the changing landscapes of modern love and leadership.
“All good things are wild and free” ~ Henry David Thoreau
1. Your Body Language Effects Your Psychology
If you are approaching life in a weak disempowered state, with your shoulders hunched over, your head down, and your arms closed off, you are going to be playing life at a smaller level.
Have you ever noticed how powerful people all have similar body language?
They all stand up straight, project forward with their bodies and voices, have open postures, and own their space.
They do this because your body language affects your psychology, your mood, and even your hormonal balance.
From today moving forward, start making a conscious effort to change your body language and watch how it changes how you show up in the world.
2. Your Breath can Change Your Life
If you want a quick and easy way to change your life and your relationships, I will give it to you in one word: Breathe.
It is that simple.
If you are feeling stressed out… Breathe.
If you are fighting with your significant other and getting losing your temper… Breathe.
If you are in a beautiful place and simply want to appreciate the sweetness of life… Breathe.
Breathing more deeply, more fully, more regularly will help you to stay grounded and present and can completely change your life in a way few other things can.
3. Stop Telling B.S. Stories
In relationships, we are often tempted to make up b.s. stories and wild claims that are not grounded in fact.
If you want truly satisfying relationships, you need to stop this immediately.
Instead of saying that someone never listens, stick with the facts.
Say something like “That is the third time today you have cut me off while I was talking and it’s really frustrating me”
This approach focuses on facts instead of accusations and it will allow you to get to the root of your relational problems easier than name calling and b.s. storytelling.
4. Just Listen
Seriously, this point is so simple but so profound.
Just shut the hell up and listen.
Don’t take things personally or get angry about whatever is being said.
Just listen, ask better questions and try to get to the root of what is really happening.
Stop talking and just listen.
5. Talk about observations, feelings, and values
Whenever you are in a serious conversation with a significant other, talk about three things.
First, your observations, or what you have noticed is happening in your relationship.
Are they respecting you or not? Are they showing up in a certain way? Have they been caught in a certain pattern of actions?
Next talk about how the observation has made you feel.
Are you feeling loved? Upset? Frustrated?
Finally, discuss your values.
Do you value integrity and honesty but have observed a pattern of lying? Say so.
John Warrillow is the founder of The Value Builder System, a company that helps business owners improve the value of their company.
John is the author of the bestselling book Built to Sell: Creating a Business That Can Thrive Without You, which was recognized by both Fortune and Inc Magazine as one of the best business books of 2011
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“It is critic who counts, it is the man in the arena” ~Theodore Roosevelt
1. Just Get in the Arena
Most people spend their lives outside of the arena.
They are the proverbial couch bound quarter backs, screaming at their televisions and telling other people who actually out in life doing something, what they should be doing.
Don’t let this be you.
Stop criticizing and complaining , and just get in the arena.
Start your business, talk to that girl, go to the gym, and the rest will start to fall into place.
2. Don’t Get to High or too Low
Welcome to the real world.
But here’s the thing, whenever bad things happen, it’s rarely the worst thing that has happened, and whenever good things happen it’s rarely the best.
Learn to ride the highs and lows.
Don’t get overly upset or overly excited.
Life is constantly changing and if you get caught up in the roller coaster of emotions that are a natural part of life, then you will be swept away and lose any semblance of sanity.
3. Focus on Action, Not Planning
If you want to succeed in business, quit planning and start doing.
Look, business plans are great, but Murphy’s Law dictates that the best laid plans go straight to hell in a hand basket as soon as they are met by opposition.
The quickest way to succeed at business is to stop guessing and start taking action.
It’s not until you are actually in the trenches that you will be able to see how your ideas are really performing and how the market actually responds to your business plan.
So get your plan together as quickly as possible, and then just freaking do it!
4. Use Selling to Validate Your Business
One of the best ways to validate a new business or product idea is to ask for a sale.
Don’t pitch your idea to friends and family and ask for their opinion. Pitch to people, and if they compliment your idea, ask them to whip out their credit card and make a purchase.
This will cut through the crap and make people put their money where their mouth is.
If you get a couple of sales right of the bat, then you know that you are on the right path.
If not, then go back to the drawing board.
5. Look for Indicators in Your Business
Just like a doctor looks for health indicators within your body that could be indicative of something more serious, you need to constantly be on the lookout for indicators in your business that could show a potential problem.
For example, you could notice that your prospecting is going incredibly well and you have more and more inbound leads every day.
However, you are still not making many sales.
Well, as you look for indicators throughout your sales funnel, you might notice that your first sales call is when you start to lose business.
This is a good indicator of something that you need to change to take your business to the next level.
Coach Michael Taylor is an entrepreneur, author, motivational speaker and radio show host who has dedicated his life to empowering men and women to reach their full potential.
He knows first hand how to overcome adversity and build a rewarding and fulfilling life and he is sharing his knowledge and wisdom with others to support them in creating the life of their dreams.
“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” ~Carl Jung
1. What You Focus on Expands
What you focus on will expand, and if you aren’t intentional about what you are focusing on, you may wake up and realize that you don’t like the life that you have created.
If you set the wrong goals and focused on the wrong things, you may wake up one day, wealthy, healthy, with plenty of “notches” on your belt and completely miserable.
Instead of focusing on being wealthy, focus on first being happy.
Instead of focusing on becoming the next Arnold, focus on being comfortable in your body and feeling alive and energetic when you wake up.
Instead of focusing on sleeping with loads of women, focus on deeply connecting with many women.
Be intentional about where you set your focus.
If you aren’t, you are setting yourself up for failure.
2. Use Life’s Challenges as Stepping Stones
Challenges are a chance for you to learn and grow.
Instead of seeing them as this negative and terrible thing, choose to view challenges as an opportunity for you to mold yourself into the man that you want to be.
See them as a way that you can strengthen yourself and equip yourself for the future.
If you approach every challenge with this attitude, you will find that challenges become fun.
They become something you look forward to, not something that you dread.
3. You are 100% Responsible for Your Life
Until you accept this truth, you will never achieve success.
If you have the technology to read this article and listen to this podcast right now and you are not where you want to be in life, it is your fault.
End of story.
If you are out of shape, in a miserable relationship (or no relationship), broke, or unhappy, it is your fault and no one else’s.
You have the power in every moment to take responsibility for yourself and make the changes necessary to become the person you want.
4. Leave Your Comfort Zone Far Behind
Life is not lived in your comfort zone.
It is lived whenever you are out to sea with no shore in sight, no boat, and no clue what is going on.
Life is lived whenever you do things that scare you half to death and make you question yourself.
Whenever you are willing to take the leap, jump off the edge, and build an airplane on the way down.
The more you get out of your comfort zone, the more you will uncover your own strength and the quicker you will achieve your goals.
5. You Must Have a Positive Mental Attitude
Look, life can suck.
It’s that simple, there will be days when nothing goes right, when the world seems like it is conspiring against you to make your life a living hell.
It is during times like these that your attitude is everything.
You have to maintain a positive focus and be willing to see the good in every situation.
If you can do this, any adversity will become something positive, and there is no limit to what you can achieve.
Derek Doepker is the founder of Excuse Proof Fitness, a #1 bestselling fitness author, and an Independent Team Beachbody Coach.
He started his journey eating fast food every single night and hating exercise.
After learning simple strategies to reprogram his habits and stay fit on a busy schedule and limited budget, he made it his mission to share the clever and cutting edge insights he’s discovered with others striving to get and stay fit for life.
“We must suffer one of two pains, either the pain of discipline or the pain of regret and disappointment.”
1. Life Will Change Around You
Most people get comfortable.
They get into a rhythm with their job or fitness or relationships and continue taking the same actions that they have taken for years, thinking that they will continue getting the improvements that they used to get.
The problem is that unless you are actively and intentionally growing yourself, you are dying.
You have to intentionally seek out opportunities to grow yourself in all areas of life, or you will come to the end and look back on your life with regrets realizing that you played it safe instead of taking the bold actions that could have lead to unbelievable results.
2. Success Requires that You Invest in Yourself
If you want to be successful, you have to invest in yourself.
There is no way around it.
You need to be willing to spend thousands on books, seminars, meetups, live events, and online courses related to your goals.
If you do not, you will never achieve success.
Do not be afraid of making bad investments either. Learn to value lessons more than successes and you will succeed at a level you never thought possible.
3. Focus on What You Can Give Not What You Can Get
Whenever people get started in a business or in a relationship, their first thought is “what can I get”.
This is a backwards way of approaching things.
You only receive in proportion to what you give.
If you want to “get” lots of money, then you need to give loads of value.
If you want to “get” love and loyalty then you need to give it first.
Shift your focus from getting to giving and your life will never be the same.
4. You Need to Have a Long Term Focus
If you only focus on the short term you will never succeed.
With a short term focus, none of the actions required to be successful make sense.
Going to the gym, waking up early, working your ass off on your business, and getting over your fear of talking with women are hard in the short term. They are painful and scary.
But in the long term they will pay off.
You need to start thinking for the long term.
Ask yourself “What action can I take today that I will thank myself for in 10 years.”
5. Momentum Generates Motivation
If you want to become successful, don’t change everything at once.
Start small and build momentum and before you know it, you will be blowing your goals out of the water.
If you want to get fit, work out ten minutes a day.
If you want to grow a business, take only one action a day to build your company.
If you want to get good with women, approach only one girl every few days.
The more you do these small actions, the more motivated you will become and the more succcess you will ultimately have.
Zachary Stockill is a writer, developer, podcaster, and lifelong student.
His work has been featured on The Huffington Post, The Art of Charm, and ManTalks among many others.
The so-called meaning of life opened up before me, it turned out to be infinitely simple, give love and seek no reward reciprocal love is your reward and the meaning of life in its entirety.” ~ Andrei Gavrilov
1. Generosity without Expectation is Sexy
There is a lot of focus in the modern “pick up” and dating advice world on making sure that you are always giving less in your relationships than you are receiving.
While this advice may have some foundation if you are looking for nothing other than a one-night stand or a slew of unfulfilling sexual experiences, it holds no water if you are looking for fulfillment in relationships.
If you want to have the most fulfilling relationships possible, you need to give love without expectation.
That is the key.
Give and don’t expect anything in return. Give because you want to, not because you are expecting sex or love to be reciprocated.
2. Tell Your Truth No Matter What
If you are struggling in your relationships, odds are, you are withholding your truth from your woman.
You need to open up, tell her the truth, be honest with her without fear of outcome and without any neediness from her.
This is the only way that you can overcome issues together and break through jealousy.
3. You Need to be Aware of Women’s Sexuality
Odds are, if you are struggling with jealousy, at least a small part of the issue is that you are not celebrating women’s sexuality.
Like men, women enjoy sex. They find it exciting and (hopefully) satisfying. And this is a beautiful thing.
Instead of sitting around in your relationships getting caught up on the men who came before you, celebrate the fact that you are in a relationship with a beautiful sexual being, and learn to be ok with the fact that you probably weren’t her first and may not be her last.
4. Jealousy is About You, not Your Partner
Anyone who is struggling with jealousy on a large scale is almost definitely struggling with their own personal development.
Jealousy stems from your own limiting beliefs.
Your belief that you are not good enough, that you will never find a woman as good as your current girlfriend, or that other men will be able to care for her and satisfy her better than you will.
If you are struggling with these thoughts, then man up and take action.
Start taking care of yourself first. Master your own personal growth and become a man of high value who has options, and you will be able to sit back and enjoy as the
5. Maintain Your Life Outside of Relationships
The key to a healthy relationship is highly counter-intuitive.
Focus on your life outside of your relationship.
If you give up on your friends, quit pursuing your hobbies, and drop all of the things that made her fall in love with you in the first place, then your relationship is doomed.
You need to remember that you have a life outside of your woman. This will help keep you grounded whenever your relationship hits rocky ground (which is will).
Shawne Merriman, nicknamed “Lights Out”, is a former American football player who was a linebacker in the NFL from 2005 to 2012. He was among the top linebackers in the NFL in his first three seasons with the San Diego Chargers, where he was a three-time Pro Bowl and All-Pro selection.
Merriman was drafted 12th overall by the San Diego Chargers in the 2005 NFL Draft. He earned NFL Defensive Rookie of the Year honors in his first season and recorded 39 1⁄2 quarterback sacks in his first three seasons
“Keep working and everything else will fall into place”
1. Don’t Do Anything Unless You Want to be Great
We live in a world that is filled with mediocrity.
People are willing to simply show up, do the bare minimum, and then head off.
This cannot be you.
If you want to succeed at life and live with passion, fulfillment, and joy, then you need to only do things if you want to be great.
Don’t compete to be good, compete to be the best.
2. There is Always Light at the End of the Tunnel
No matter how difficult your life is right now, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
We all struggle through hard times, some of us more so than others. Just remember that this too will end and when you push through it, it will be better on the other side.
3. Get Out of Your Own Way
If you want to succeed, then you need to drop your ego and get out of your own way.
Be willing to take advice, listen to mentors who are wiser than you, get out of your comfort zone and be willing to take the action necessary to succeed.
4. Hustle Like You’ve Never Achieved Success
No matter how successful you are, you need to keep hustling like you have never even tasted success.
It doesn’t matter whether you are a multi-millionaire, a titan of your industry, or the leader in your field, the day you stop hustling is the day that you die.
5. Remember the Babysteps
Whenever you are stuck in life and feel like you cannot move forward, you need to remember to focus on the babysteps.
If you are struggling to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be, then take a step back and focus on the small things.
Just lay 4-5 bricks a day in your business, health, wealth, and relationships and one year from now, you will have built yourself an incredible home.
Rich Litvin is a high-performance coach who helps Olympic athletes, presidential candidates, and special forces members achieve more in their life, business, and relationships.
He is also the Co-author of the bestselling book “The Prosperous Coach.”
“Confidence is a result, n0t a requirement”
1. You Need to Live a Life of Integrity
If you want to be respected in life and succeed at the highest level, then you must be a man of integrity.
This does not simply mean that you keep your word when you make a promise.
It means that your thoughts, words, and actions are all in congruence.
You don’t lie and blow smoke to appease others, you don’t hold your tongue to avoid pissing people off, and you don’t live a life that is incongruent with what you want to make others happy.
You live a life of congruence where everything is in line.
This is the pathway to true power.
2. If You Want to Live Life Fully Kill the Nice Guy
Most men play life small.
Why? Because they are nice.
Or at least, that’s how they appear on the surface.
They are agreeable, amiable, and work very hard to make others happy, but in reality, they are living a lie.
They say yes when they want to say no, they suppress emotions, and they do all of it out of selfishness, hoping that their perceived niceness will result in some sort of gain.
To live fully, to live a powerful life, and be a grounded man, you have to kill the nice guy.
Speak your truth, live in integrity, and do not set out to appease others.
Be kind, of course, but do it from a place of abundance, where you are giving to the world because you are already so full, not from a place of scarcity where you are kind because you want something in return.
3. You Need to Burn Your Bridges
Want to succeed?
Burn your bridges.
While everyone has their own path, one of the quickest ways to ensure success is to cut off all chances of failure.
If you quit your job, move to a new city, leave a relationship, or sell a home, that’s it.
There is no turning back.
When you give yourself no choice but to succeed, you will find that you are stronger than you ever thought.
4. What Got You Here Won’t Get You There
Something interesting about high achievers is that the actions that got them to where they are today will not get them to where they want to be.
Everything you have done to become successful in the past will hold you back from becoming successful today
Life is in a constant state of change, and when you are doing the same actions you were doing years ago, odds are you are playing it small.
You need to have powerful men, coaches, and mentors in your life who can call you on your bullshit and help you step things up.
You will never become a billionaire doing what you did to become a millionaire.
5. You Need to Improve Only 4%
Most people think they need to improve 100% to achieve their dream lives.
The truth is, they only need to improve about 4% in the right area of life.
If you can find that critical 4% in your dating, health, and business, your life can change completely.
The key is, once again, finding people who can help you to pinpoint that critical 4% and help you on the path to its achievement.
Master Business, Relationship, and Success Coach, TV/Radio Host, Author of 9 Books, Inspirational Speaker
David began his career in the health and fitness industry and quickly was named “Mr. Motivation” by Lifetime Television and “The Master of Motivation” by American Fitness magazine.
“Every action into the uncomfortable ensures our success in life”
1. You Have to become Uncomfortable
Life is not lived within your comfort zone.
If you want to achieve success, you cannot sit on your couch and visualize it, you have to get up off your butt and go after it.
Want to get shredded?
Get yourself to the gym, lift weights, and track your diet.
Want to make more money?
Work 80 hours a week intentionally on your business for 90 days and see what your results are.
The only way to succeed is to do the things that are uncomfrotable and painful.
2. We Cannot Live for Instant Gratification
If you are living for instant gratification, you will never acheive fulfillment.
You must learn to delay gratification, giving up what you want now for what you ultimately want.
It might not be fun to wake up early and workout or miss partying with friends to grind it out on your business, but you will thank yourself in the years to come.
3. The Path to Success Rarely Feels Good
Success can suck.
It’s just that simple.
Getting up early isn’t fun.
Working 12 hour days isn’t fun.
Cutting off unhealthy friendships isn’t fun.
But it is worth it.
Success requires you to be in pain, it is that simple.
The sooner you accept that, the easier the pain will be.
4. What You Think About You Do Not Bring About
Thinking about something day after day does nothing to move you closer to its attainment.
If you want something, then go and get it.
Don’t wish for it or visualize it, GO AND GET IT!
Work for it.
Sweat, cry, and bleed for it.
Then and only then can you truly acheive the things that you want.
5. Success in 80% Action 20% Mentality
For all of this talk bashing the law of attraction and visualization, the principles behind the psycholgy of success do have some merit.
If you want to boost the speed with which you achieve success, then using visualization techniques, affirmations, and other pop psychology tactics work when used in conjunction with massive action.
Your goal should be to devote 80% of your time to taking action and 20% of your time to mastering your psychology.
Kute Blackson is an influential thought leader, a transformational coach, and author of You Are the One.
He has spent the past several years of his life dedicated to helping men and women live lives of true purpose. Discovering who they really are and how they can share their gifts with the world.
He has appeared on the Larry King show and has been endorsed by influencers Jack Canfield, Rhonda Britten, Lisa Nichols, and John Gray among many others.
“The real does not die, and the unreal never lived” ~Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj.
1. Be in Constant Surrender
Life is unpredictable.
The more you end up trying to control it, the more it ends up controlling you.
One of the keys to living a truly happy and fulfilled life is to learn to surrender to the flow of life.
Allow life to happen. Understand that things happen for a reason. Do not try and force life, rather surrender to life and you will be amazed at what it brings to you.
2. You Need to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone
Life is meant to be lived.
If you are staying in your comfort zone, you are not living.
You need to constantly push yourself to do new and exciting things. Things that scare you, things that make you unsure of yourself, and things that you are unsure you can accomplish.
Because the funny thing is, you will be just fine.
You will survive, and likely thrive, and the more often you push yourself to do things outside of the normal for you, the more you will grow and the more confidence you will have.
3. You Have to Question and Feel yourself
There is an old saying that “The unexamined life is not worth living.”
You need to question yourself, question your life, question the decisions that you have made and your assumptions about who you are and what your identity is.
The more you question your life, the more you will realize the beauty and power of your life.
Once you have begun upon this realization, you need to feel yourself.
You need to feel who you truly are. Not who society says you are, not who your parents say you are, and not even who you say you are.
You need to feel into who you truly are.
Once you can do this, you will be amazed at how your life will change.
4. You Are Not Your Thoughts
You are not your mind.
You are not your thoughts.
You are much deeper than that.
You are an infinite being that is part of an infinite universe, and you have to learn to accept that fact and see your life as it really is.
Your thoughts are merely a vessel for a tiny part of you that is on this great journey called life.
Learn to disassociate from your thoughts and witness them instead of being a slave to them.
5. Happiness is About Truth
There is no happiness when you are living in a lie.
If you want to live a life of total fulfillment and genuine joy and happiness, you have to start telling the truth.
Tell the truth to the people in your life, yes, but more importantly, tell the truth to yourself.
Stop lying to yourself and get real.
The sooner you can do this, the better your life will be.
Businessman and Life Coach, Aaron Walker, has inspired many through his leadership, mentorship, and consistent pursuit of excellence.
He enjoys helping others and believes experience is a great teacher. 36 years of entrepreneurship and marriage have given Aaron a wealth of experience. Aaron continues to reach new heights and broaden his perspective of the terrain by examining his experiences and growing from them.
“Can’t couldn’t do it and could did it all”
“Fear missing an opportunity more than you fear failure”
1. Remove the Word “Can’t” from Your Vocabulary
There is a famous quote from Henry Ford that states “Whether you believe you can or believe you can’t, you are right.”
And nothing could be more true.
Whatever you set out to accomplish in your life, business, health, or realtionships, is within your reach.
But you have to believe in yourself.
You have to crush limiting beliefs and make the definite decision that the word “can’t” will no longer be a part of your vocabulary.
Decide that from now on, you will find a way or make one, and you can achieve anything you set your mind to.
2. You Need to Have Purpose and Meaning in Your Life
So many people in our society want to retire and live the “good life” of no work, golfing all day, and having ultimate freedom.
But as enticing and seductive as this lifestyle may be, it is not fulfilling.
After a while, the golf course will bore you, relaxing will become a chore, and you will long for the days when you had to wake up early to achieve a purpose.
On your path to success, always put your purpose above every other material measure of success.
You are not successful when you can sleep in and do nothing with your day, you are successful when you are making a difference and living a life that sets you on fire.
3. Make a Difference in Other’s Lives
How will you be remembered when you die?
Will you be remembered by the money you made? The car you drove? The woman you were married to?
Or will you be remembered by the difference you made in other people’s lives?
Life is too short to live selfishly.
Take care of yourself, yes.
But make sure that you are seeking to serve and love others more than you seek to serve yourself.
This is the true path to fulfillment.
This is what will allow you to take your last breath with a smile on your face and a heart full of joy.
4. Learn to Delay Gratification
Nothing can destroy your chances of success more than failing to delay gratification.
Just because you can, does not mean you should.
Learn to make smart decisions and put off the vacations, luxury purchases, and days off until you have truly earned them.
By doing this, you will set yourself up for success in a way that you could never have imagined.
5. Take Risks, But Take Calculated Risks
Most entrepreneurs are risk takers.
It is in our blood.
It’s why we are drawn to the uncertain and “dangerous” world of owning our own businesses and going against the system.
And risk is a great thing.
If you take risks that are calculated.
Make sure that whenever you are making a decision in your business, your health, or even your realtionships, that you have calculated the risks and weighed the potential rewards.
By doing this, you will prevent your personality from ruining your company, your body, and your relationships.
Josh Verne is an entrepreneur with over 20 years experience in starting, growing, and selling businesses and is currently the CEO of Flocku.com.
“Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others” ~Johnathan Swift
1. Be a Leader Not a Boss
There are two types of people in management positions.
Leaders and bosses.
A boss uses his title to accomplish his goals, he demands respect, and he does what is his best interest.
A leader earns respect by putting his people before himself and then uses that respect to accomplish the goals that he and his team have set together.
If you want to truly succeed in life and business, then you have to be a leader.
Forget forcing your will onto others and demanding respect.
If you put others first and serve the people following you, you and your team can accomplish anything you set your mind to.
2. Everything Needs to be a Win-Win
Never agree to a deal or follow a plan of action that is win-lose.
Always strive to achieve a win-win situation.
A win for you, a win for your clients, a win for your employees, and a win for society.
No matter how bleak a situation may look, there is always a way to create a win for everybody.
When you stop settling to situations that are not win-win, you will be forced to find the very best solution every single time you are faced with a new client or an unexpected problem.
This will skyrocket your business, your team, and your reputation like nothing else.
3. Speak Less, Listen More
This point is simple and profound.
You have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Use them in that proportion.
The less you speak, the more power your words will have, the more authoritative you will appear, and the more people will listen when you have something to say.
4. You Need to Have Balance in Your Life
Life is a balancing act.
You can have all the money in the world, but if your home life and health are out of order, you will suffer.
Conversely, you can have a loving family and a shredded body, but if you are not making enough money, you and your loved ones will suffer.
Balance is not about spending the same amount of time focused on every area of your life either.
It is about making progress in all areas of your life and ensuring that you improve just a little bit each day in your health, wealth, relationships, and personal growth.
5. Figure Out What You Are Passionate About
If you want to be successful, find something you are passionate about.
While it is true that there are plenty of passionate people who are unsuccessful, there are very few successful people who lack passion.
You need to find something that wakes you up every morning with a fire in your belly.
Something that excites you and makes you want to skip parties, wake up early, and work late.
Otherwise, your life will be a groundhog day of the same boring drudgery and the same uninspiring mess.
Find your passion and you have the keys to the good life.
Personal trainer, peak performance coach, and podcaster Ted Ryce has overcome a tremendous amount in his quest to live a legendary life.
Ryce has worked with Fortune 500 CEOs, busy professionals, and celebrities, including Richard Branson, Ricky Martin and Robert Downey Jr. He helps his clients develop and stick with high-performance habits that help them manage stress and adversity and lead more successful lives.
His philosophy is that being a high-performance person, one who chases and achieves their biggest goals, isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity to survive and thrive in the modern world.
“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive and go do that. Because what the world needs is more people to come alive” ~Howard Thurman
1. You Need to Come Alive
The world is full of people who are dead on the inside.
They are living and breathing in the literal sense, but their lives lack the passion.
They wake up in the morning with no fire in their bellies. They simply go through the motions, doing things that they dislike because of societal conditioning.
What the world needs, what you need, is to come alive.
To live a life every day that is of your choosing, doing things that you love and spending every day of your life living with deep passion.
Forget what society and your parents taught you. You need to do what will make you come alive, period.
2. You Need to Push Yourself Physically to Succeed at Life
Your health is a critical part of succeeding at life.
If you are not pushing yourself physically in the gym and challenging your body on a daily basis, then you are doing a disservice to your career, your family, and your personal growth.
Whenever you push yourself in the gym, you can push yourself harder in life.
You wake up with more energy and can live life on a level 10.
3. Consistency is Key
You will never have the body of your dreams, the woman of your dreams, or the millions in the bank account if you are not consistent.
You need to be consistent.
Set a plan and stick to it.
Don’t make excuses, don’t allow life to get in the way.
As Nike says, “Just do it!”
4. You Need More Experiences
If you are feeling lost in life, you need to experience more things.
Pack up your bags and travel around the world. Move to a new city. Try out a new career.
Do whatever you have to do to give yourself more experiences and grow into the man that you want to become.
5. Life is a Marathon
Life is not a a sprint, it is a marathon.
You cannot expect to achieve all of your goals and dreams within a year.
It takes decades of dedication and consistency.
And even then you will never truly arrive at any sort of destination.
Life is a never ending journey.
You will never arrive, and that is ok.
6. Training Routine to Build Strength
If you are looking to build strength and become (literally) the strongest version of yourself.
Follow the below routine.
Workout 4 Days a Week
Monday: Upper Body
Tuesday: Lower Body
Thursday: Upper Body
Friday: Lower Body
For exercise selection, stick to big lifts.
Deadlifts, squats, bench press, and overhead presses should comprise the majority of your workout.
Pick 2 based on the training day, for example, if you are doing upper body, complete Bench Press, and Shoulder Presses.
Then pick 2-3 supplementary exercises of your choice that are in the same muscle groups to compliment your workout.
Sets and Reps
Month 1: 4 sets of 12-15
Month 2: 4 sets of 6-8 (higher weight)
Month 3: 4 sets of 4-5 (higher weight)
Week 1: 4 sets of 6
Week 2: 4 sets of 8
Week 3: 5 sets of 8
Week 4: Deload (Same sets and reps as week 1 with 30-40% less weight)
An Added Note
The most important part of any training program is called linear periodization.
This is the concept of basically incrementally increasing the weight that you are pressing or pulling to continue forcing your body to grow and adapt.
Always seek to add one more rep, just a little bit more weight, or another set to your workouts so that you are continually improving and pushing your body.
7. Bonus Routine for Fat Burning
An easy trick to help you burn some extra fat is to complete the following workouts either on your off days or as a finisher to your workouts.
Week 1: 5 Minutes of Bodyweight squats in aerobic heart rate range (or some other bodyweight exercise)
Week 2: 10 Minutes of Bodyweight squats in aerobic heart rate range (or some other bodyweight exercise)
Week 3: 15 Minutes of Bodyweight squats in aerobic heart rate range (or some other bodyweight exercise)
Week 4: 8 Minutes of Bodyweight squats in aerobic heart rate range (or some other bodyweight exercise)
8. Sleep Better
Here are a few tips to help you improve the quality of your sleep.
-Download the app F.lux to dim the lights on your computer so that don’t disrupt your natural sleep cycle.
-Invest in a sleep master mask (or just cover your face with a shirt)
-Invest in a nicer mattress
– Set your thermostat to 64 degrees F
-Get ear plugs for noisy environments
-Get to bed at the same time every night, preferably before 11 p.m.