Jerod Zavistoski is the international bestselling author of “Methodology of The Modern Male: A Modern Man’s Guide to Personal Excellence”, a motivational speaker and LA’s premiere dating coach.
“There is nothing with which every man is so afraid as getting to know how enormously much he is capable of doing and becoming.” ~Søren Kierkegaard
“This won’t kill you, just do it”
1. The Only Person Who Can Fix Anything is You
One of the most common themes in the Knowledge for Men interviews is personal responsibility, and this should come as little surprise.
When you are in a victim mode, there is very little that you can do to change your life. If you are constantly blaming other people for your lack of success, you will never take the action necessary to achieve the success you are after.
The only person who can fix your life is you. Take 100% responsibility for everything in your life and start making moves to get your life to the level you want to be.
2. Be Careful You Build the Right Package
All men are trying to build themselves into a “package.” They are trying to become a certain type of person, and typically the motivation for this is their desire for more beautiful women.
While there is nothing wrong with this, men need to take care to make sure they are fully educated and building the right package, one that will not only lead to success with women, but success in your health, in your business, and most importantly fulfillment with life.
3. Men Are Emotional Creatures
Something many men fail to realize in their pursuit of becoming the “Alpha” is that men are inherently emotional creatures, we are just different emotional creatures then women are.
It is learning how to harness and share these emotions where men often fail.
Expressing your emotions, your fears, your desires, and your pain is not unmanly. Vulnerability is an inherently manly thing to do as it opens you up to pain and ridicule and shows that you have true strength of character and confidence in yourself.
4. Move Towards Discomfort
A comfortable life is the killer of all great dreams.
If you are living in comfort, you have no reason to pursue greatness. I mean think about it, why risk pain and suffering whenever what you are doing right now has earned you the big ass TV, the house, the car, and a cute girlfriend?
Why push to become more than you are?
You have to move towards discomfort, because the simple fact is, if you don’t move towards it, it will move towards you. The more open and prepared you are to face discomfort, the more at ease you will be when adversity strikes (and it will strike). If you are constantly living a life of ease, even the smallest of setbacks can make you feel as if your life is crashing in around you.
5. Open Up Your Mind
You can never be a truly complete man until you are willing to let go of your prejudices and open up your mind, until you are willing to examine news ideas, new ways of thinking and new lifestyles without judgement.
If you want to life a truly happy and fulfilled life, you need to spend time exploring new things and new ways of being, only then will you truly know the path that you want to pursue and who you want to be.