Jessica Ly is a life coach, meditative breathing teacher, and devout poet. She graduated from the University of Southern California with a B.S. in Exercise Science. Jessica has taken her own personal journey to meditate with Buddhist monks in the Himalayas and loves
Jessica has taken her own personal journey to meditate with Buddhist monks in the Himalayas and loves traveling to enrich her own connection to communities around the world. She believes it is not so much about gaining knowledge, but living it that leads to infinite peace and joy and the empowerment of leadership and great change.
Jessica is also the Author of The ABCs of Authentic Me.
“We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are” ~Anais Nin
1. Authenticity is Knowing Who You Are and Accepting It
We live in a day and age where people will do anything except be themselves.
People often don’t like what they see in the mirror and instead of working to change it, they look for ways that they can cover it up and pretend to be something that they are not.
Authenticity is knowing who you are, the good, bad, and ugly, and accepting it. Embracing what you can’t change and working on the things that you can.
True authenticity will set you free and allow you to attract the right things into your life in business and relationships.
2. Inauthenticity Ruins Relationships
The quickest way to ruin a relationship is to be unauthentic.
Tell your significant other that you don’t care about something when you do,or bend over backwards for them because it is what they want instead of telling them what is on your mind and you will be in for a miserable and short-lived relationship that brings more pain to your life than joy.
3. Intention is Everything
At KFM, we are all about destroying the nice guy and embracing your inner warrior, however, the reason we want to kill the nice guy is that this is rarely an authentic representation of who you are.
Most “nice guys” offer love with expectation, not because they are a genuine and loving person.
However, for some of you, you genuinely are a giving person who expects nothing in return. You compliment the girl because you like her shoes, not because you expect her to sleep with you.
You compliment the girl because you like her shoes, not because you expect her to sleep with you. You tell someone you love them because you do, not because you need something. You give of yourself because it makes you feel alive, not because you need anything in return.
If that is genuinely you, then embrace it and love that about yourself, because it is a rare gift.
4. Take Baby Steps to Success
If you are looking to achieve success in business, relationships, or health, learn the power of baby steps.
To become the man you need to be will require massive amounts of action, however, if you eat the elephant one bite at a time you will be able to become who you want to be quicker than you ever thought possible.
5. The Key to Authenticity is Calming the Mind
The best way to start embracing authenticity is through some form of meditation or other practice that stills your mind. Whenever you are in your head you are thinking about other’s opinions and if you are doing things “right”
However, when your mind is still, you are able to disassociate with yourself and see things for what they truly are, and that is where your true authentic power will come from.