Christian McQueen is a men’s dating coach, blogger, entrepreneur, author and the founder of SelfFlix.com, The Netflix of Self-Improvement, an online self-improvement video course subscription site that streams step-by-step courses ranging from making money online to dating and social skills.
“Failure is not an option”.
1. Take Responsibility for Your Own Damn Life
We live in a day and age where people live live’s that they claim no responsibility.
They sit at home in front of their television, stuffing their face with processed shit, and never getting out to meet people and socialize and then they blame the government that they’re broke, big medicine that they’re fat, the high school bully who called them a name 15 years ago for the fact that they are alone and depressed in life.
Wake up, men!
No one is responsible for you except for you. Take responsibility for your own life, because if you don’t you can never change your life.
2. Watch Out for Red Flags
While you can be great with women at bars and clubs, being a good man and being good in relationships is a whole different ball game.
One of the biggest mistakes that most novices make when it comes to the relationship “game” is that they ignore red flags because the girls are hot or they’re having a lot of fun.
Be sure to watch out for girls who are clingy, on any kind of prescription meds, angry and inconsistent in any way.
If you want to learn a little bit more about this, check out Christian’s monster 10,000 + word post here
3. Stop Apologizing
Guys, we get it…
School, the government, and your parents raised you to be a polite little gentleman who always says please and thank you. That’s great!
But you know what’s not great?
The innumerable amount of men who have become pussified shells of the confident, assertive alpha males that once roamed the earth.
And while this problem goes much deeper than anyone issues and is tied to everything from the decline of the family structure, hormonal imbalance, to feminism, one of the easiest things you can do to start getting back on track is to stop apologizing.
We aren’t saying that if you run over someone’s dog you shouldn’t apologize, but men, when you are in a grocery store, and someone else runs into you because they were on their damn phone do NOT apologize for it. Don’t apologize because you are in someone’s way (guess what they are in your way too), don’t apologize unless you really need to.
4. Success with Finances and Women Are Paramount
There are truly two goals in a man’s life:
Get laid and get paid.
How those goals appear for you are quite frankly irrelevant. Whether you want to find that beautiful woman and settle down to a monogamous relationship and comfortable 9-5, or you want to be the next Casanova, traveling the world and bedding all sorts of exotic girls, is completely irrelevant.
You need to spend your early years learning how to meet and attract women, and how to make money. If you can master these two areas of your life, you will have the freedom and the peace of mind to pursue other things and go after your “passion.”
Because here’s the thing. Going after your passion is great, starting a family is great, and doing those things is a helluva lot easier with $250,000 saved in your account and a beautiful dime by your side who is loyal and loving.
5. Your Mission is Your Priority Not Women
Women are wonderful, we all love them and all straight men do most of the things that they do in order to attract the women that they desire. But the thing is, if you are reading this blog, odds are, you have a fire inside of you, you have a calling and a passion that is bigger than yourself, and importantly, bigger than any woman.
Men, you can never make a woman your whole priority in life, a priority, absolutely. The priority, no.
If you are in a long term relationship or marriage, then obviously it is your responsibility to be there for her, to love, her and provide for her, but your mission in life has to come first and she needs to understand that this is the case, and it doesn’t mean that you don’t love her, it simply means that you have a calling inside of you that cannot be limited to one single relationship.
So go after your mission men, and don’t hold back.