Dr. Corey Lewis is the author of The Art of Becoming, a professional coach, and a master of NLP and quantum leaping.
“We cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are” ~Max Dupree
1. If You to Achieve Something You Must First Conceive it and Believe It
I want you to imagine for a moment that there are three men, let’s call them James, Alex, and Will.
All three men suffered through challenging childhoods and crippling adversity during their younger years, from poverty to the death of family members, to abusive parents.
They have all seen the worst that this world has to offer and lived through a reality where most men wouldn’t last a day.
Now James, the first of the men doesn’t know how he could possibly improve his life, he assumes that this is “just the way it is” and relegates all of his hopes and dreams to childhood fantasies.
Alex, on the other hand, knows that his life could be better.
He constantly finds himself daydreaming of a better life, one filled with an abundance of wealth, unconditional love, vibrant health, and a deep sense of belonging.
However, Alex doesn’t believe that this can be a reality for him.
After all, he is a former convict, drug addict, and grew up in one of the worst families you can imagine. How could he change?
Now, I don’t think it takes a genius to figure out the results that these two men are going to generate in their lives with these types of convictions and beliefs.
But what about Will?
Will is in the same boat as everyone else.
He went to prison in his late teens, never had a father, and is currently broke, alone, and addicted to drugs, but he’s different.
Not only does he know that life can get better for him, he deeply believes that he has what it takes to make it so, he believes that he can change his life, turn things around, and achieve the success he has been dying for his whole life.
You see, the only limits on your life are the ones that you impose upon yourself.
If you can conceive a new way of being, deeply believe that it is possible, and are willing to take the action necessary to do it, you will succeed.
2. Tapping Into Your Emotions Creates the Motion You Need for Success
How many times have you woken up in the morning, intending to get out of bed early and go “seize the day” but found yourself instead rolling over lazily and smashing the snooze button?
How many times have you sat down at your computer intent on working hard and grinding away at your latest project, when three hours later, you find yourself deeply lost in the trap of the internet, throwing your day down the drain?
How many times have you come home after a long day of work intending to hit the gym and work on your health only to find yourself sitting in front of the television on a guilty Netflix binge?
My guess is a lot.
You see the problem isn’t that you are lazy or lack work ethic, the problem is that you lack the emotional drive to create the motion you need to achieve success.
You need to have a burning reason to pursue your dreams, you need to have clear goals, and you need to learn how to tap into the power of your emotions to go after the life that you want.
3. Your Thoughts are the Father of Your Results
If you have anything in your life that you are unhappy with, you need to remember that the root of these results did not start in your bank account, in your relationship, or in your body, but these results started in your mind.
When you look at your bank account and don’t like what you see, you need to remember that these results were caused by your thoughts.
They were caused by your beliefs, your decisions, and your values that were then projected into your reality.
This truth can be seen in any area of your life.
No matter what results you have or don’t have in your life, your thoughts are the cause behind all of them.
And if you can change your thoughts, then you can change your actions, change your actions and you can change your results, and if you can change your results you change your life.
4. Break Down Your Dreams into Achievable Steps
Become a millionaire.
Meet the girl of your dreams.
Lose 100 lbs.
All of these goals are incredible in size and scope and are a scary whenever you look at them without first thinking about how you can break them down into achievable steps.
If you want to become a millionaire, then start by working on earning your first $1,000 a month and build up from there.
If you want to meet the woman of your dreams, then start getting out once a week and meeting awesome women at cool social events.
If you want to lose 100 lbs. then start with 5.
Whatever goal you have, it can be broken down into several smaller steps that will allow you to approach your dreams without feeling overwhelmed or scared.
5. Escape Your Plateaus and Find the Next Level
Life is full of unlimited possibilities and opportunities just waiting for you to show up and take them.
But first, you have to break through your plateaus and realize that you can be living life on an elevated level.
No matter how incredible your life is right now, there is always room to grow, there are always new mountains to be conquered, and there are always new ways to push yourself to become a better man.